total quarter life mlc

[kissak]

I think thats a good idea Mdoodles....kill her with kindness! Answer her calls and be just as sickening sweet as you can! It will eat her alive!! Eventually she may stop calling when she sees she isnt getting to you. Worth a try anyway.

[mdoodles]

for now i dont wish to even answer. maybe that will change. maybe one time i will be caught off guard and she will get me.

[Walking]

Mdoodles - have you thought about getting a job to help out? Maybe during school hours?

It must be very overwhelming for a person in crisis (your H) to be unemployed, living outside the home and still being 100% responsible for 2 other people ... ya know?

If nothing else, all that responsiblity and drama can't be making him feel good about your home and your marriage.

I don't know, maybe if you could just identify the things that are the most difficult for your H now and see if there is some way you can contribute to allieviate that stress.

Good luck.

[mdoodles]

i intend to get a job of some kind in the fall, once i get through the packing of the house, selling of our things that can be sold and finding where we will live and where my son will be attending school.

i havent worked much in 6 years but i did update my resume, i have worked at the preschool a couple hours a week for the past 2 years. i also gave my resume to a recruiter.

i realize he may be unemployed, but he did this! didnt lose his job, left his job to open our business, which he then chose to close, rather than work at making it work! AND left to go back to the ow!

frankly, im convinced now that he is working and hiding it.

somehow his porsche hasnt been reposessed...

[kissak]

ITs amazing how they can get by with the things they need....a porsche??? wow.

Sorry your having one of those days too Mdoodles...im trying to figure out what my next step should be. Im hoping he gets the hint that I wont be around for him to use anymore. I have to figure out how to cut that rope loose thats tied around my ankle!!!

[mdoodles]

just got 5 private calls in a row....i thought it was my mil, so normally i will answer and she will speak first,,,didnt happen..

so i hung up and the person kept calling. i did not answer.

i know it is psycho girl and i do not want to speak to her

called my 2 other private callers to see if it was them - no.

and they have learned to unblock their number when calling me.

its weird, i just got home not too long ago, its like she knew that, but to realistic, she is most likely not out here.

and yeah, the porsche is amusing isnt it?

what is funny is that it was once his extra extra car (yes, he had 3 cars to himself). the porsche was a total mlc purchase at the age of 27

[kissak]

what does she get out of calling you so many times?

i think i would have to just see what it was she wanted and just be snotty to her.

[mdoodles]

i really dont want to talk to her. she started calling again at 11:25 last night.

i did the pick up/hang up to keep the phone from ringing.

and since i was sleeping, it took a minute to register what was going on. she called like 6 times and then i put the private call block on the phone - *77.

i wonder where he was that she was calling?

[mdoodles]

so she actually called me 17 times last night, i figured out how to check my call records online.

17 times!

i also discovered if i block private callers, if someones uses *67 to block their number, they will not get through BUT their number will show up on phone records as an attempt.

i decided to keep the block off to capture her repeated calls for my file.

i spent an hour printing out my phone records going back to april and highlighted all calls.

there is a definite pattern in her calling and it appears to be when she doesnt feel secure, as in, when he moved home...then there was a drop in calls, he moved back out, but calls have picked up again in the last 2 weeks to an amount i havent yet encountered. i wonder what is up...

[kissak]

17 times??!!! Good grief!! Isnt lovely what our H's have brought into our lives to deal with?

My H's ex OW got into a car accident today...he told me about it, but while he was here people were calling ME like crazy to tell me about the wreck...he wanted to know why people were wanting to call me. I said Im sure to tell me about your OW accident....he texted later to say he was sorry that people were bothering me about people he knew.

They do bring people into our lives that we dont ask for.

I hope you can take this OW to court or something and file a complaint against her....She sounds like she could do something crazier.