Trying to detach from the madness!

[Startingover2]

He just spent 20 minutes with baby on Father's Day!

[kassie]

Was he sober?

Think of it as 20 min- that's all.

It's just another day for baby, you are the only one here who knows what is going on. Can you focus on something else now?

[Startingover2]

Yeah he was sober. He came early enough for that.

[Startingover2]

Just heard that exh's affair with married girl is out. Husband knows. She is leaving him for exh and they are getting a D. In love...blah blah blah.

Its so sick, sad, unfair, pathetic, and plain old disgusting.

How is it that he can keep running over people and families and never get hurt?

Why does this hurt me so much?

[volleydog]

So sorry you're hurting it just life...You still care you have a child together and right now she has no father, hopefully that will change. I do think you're doing great by not just allowing him to come over whenever is good for him...Keep detaching and it will get easier...or so I've heard .

[Startingover2]

So sorry you're hurting it just life...You still care you have a child together and right now she has no father, hopefully that will change. I do think you're doing great by not just allowing him to come over whenever is good for him...Keep detaching and it will get easier...or so I've heard .

Yeah, I have heard that too! Haven't seen the easier part yet. I wish there was a way to truly go NC, but obviously not possible. Its the constant being on your guard, thinking of responses to the madness, and finding the new lies. Makes detaching tough.

[Startingover2]

Wow..the hits just keep coming!

So I was just browsing my FB and came across a comment exh just made this morning on a mutual friends FB.
"I am divorced again but I have 3 great kids from it. The two older ones I have half the time and the youngest...well that is a different story. Her mother is a bi** and I can't stand her."

What? How can he say that? How can he put that there for the world to read?

Why does he hate me so much? I haven't hurt him a fraction of what he has hurt me. Yeah, I call him on his crap both when we were married and now, but its no reason to talk crap about me on a public board!

Oh, and he doesn't have his other kids half the time! He has them maybe one night a week.

[volleydog]

I know it's not right but I'd be so tempted to put the truth out there on your FB page...Something like I wish my D's dad would every once in a while pick her over drinking and breaking up marriages, at least he was sober for the 20 minutes he chose to spend with her on fathers day...But that would be wrong, I think...:)

[blindsided1]

Oh, I like it volleydog.....Boy, I have been tempted to do the same kind of thing....believe me.

Hey, SO2. Water off a ducks back. You gotta take that BS that married woman is divorcing and going to be with exH. Come on...even if she did....all I have to say is SUCKER!!!!

You have to stop letting the rumors and crap hurt you. I know it's hard, but just try to take it with a grain of salt. Don't believe everything you hear and most importantly, spend more time looking at YOUR life, than his.

Sorry he only spent 20 min with his daughter. But, that is HIS choice...he's making his choices..

[Startingover2]

I feel really relieved today. I spoke with my attorney this morning about what I should be doing to prepare myself for when/if exh takes me back to court.

He said the court guidlelines say no overnights until she is at least 3 or 4...that is with a stable dad. If he was stable he could maybe get a few hours alone with her here and there but since he is far from stable we will keep visits supervised. My log will come in handy. We are going to ask for no unsupervised visits until he completes a recovery program and has one year sobriety. He felt the DUI was good as well as the no shows.

I was happy to hear this news but yet nothing is guaranteed.