I think it is healing T. The wound is scaring (I believe like GOOD scar tissue after drastic surgery). For so long the wound just kept getting it reopened.. through the contact, the divorce proceeding.. all of it. But you are healing. AND like I am like you, I believe that we see them for who they are not who we remember...
The pain for me only comes when I think he is who he was.
Sorry your daughter has mono - it really wipes them out.
As always T- take care of you!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Luckily there were alot of people there and we did not run into them.
It was hard on the heart.
Neighbors looked confused.
Acquaintances were perplexed.
It was hard on my son who graduated.
Sharing my son with a bimbo is ridiculous.
I never pictured my son's graduation as being this way.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I know you know this but she will never be anything to your son...he may tolerate her to have his Dad...
It is so hard to believe they could be so retarded ......I would venture to say she must have put a ton of pressure to be there
I know how u feel though...yesterday my son had his first game of summer ball....and as I drove to the game I wondered will this be the day she is there....so far never been at an event I have....she went to one early in the high school season that was for a special try out not related to the school in a far away town....some of the other parents were there but only a few....then i heard she showed up at my sons Dads house ready to go to another Saturday game a few months ago and my son told her o no u cant go, that would be disrespectful to my MOM.....and she didnt go...thank GOD.... Getting left for OW is one thing...having them involved in our kids life......oh that is just beyond words...
My son graduates next year from high school......I wonder by then if she will be making her appearance...as the pressure mounts....they did not get involved with our h ...to be hidden away ........I know they cant wait to make their appearances.....they are so foolish to think ....what they think people are thinking....
as far your situation.....wheres that itching powder...lol....ok a girl can dream....
these men are so lost.....at my sons game yesterday...when I see my x now...gosh he just looks so different like a stranger....and that is weird like your in the twlight zone...
keep moving forward...you have grown so much and he is stuck....sad as it is....
your son knows the deal......and isnt that the saddest of all....what we thought were no brainers about the type of Dads our H would be ...and then to deal with the examples they have set for our kids ....its the hardest part...
I don't post much anymore. I am trying not to give ex and ow any more time/head room than I already have. Frankly, they are not worth the expended emotional energy anymore.
I did have to post this though. It is pretty absurd and took a lot out of me yesterday.
Yesterday, my 14 year-old daughter was at my ex's. She was planning what she would wear for a party that night at her girlfriends house. It was her girlfriend's birthday. My daughter was talking with OW. They were in the kitchen alone. OW slipped my daughter (14 years old) a wine cooler and placed it in her purse.
My daughter was smart enough to know that was wrong and came home to me and told me the story.
Last edited by TRUSTING; 06/21/0904:10 PM.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
This is what we are dealing with. I have worked all my life to raise my kids in a certain manner. To know right from wrong. Obviously, OW never was taught this. I am very thankful my daughter knew to come to me. I thank God for this. However, I have to admit that after this stunt I am about through.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I can just imagine what went through your head on this antic. What the h@ll was that woman thinking of? Giving an under aged person such a thing...that's enough to get herself toss in jail for providing alcohol to a minor. I could just smack that woman silly.
Do they ever grow up?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks for posting Snodderly. That stunt really through me emotionally. Ex dropped the kids off this evening. I was washing off the driveway. I saw nothing but destain in his eyes. He was cold, blunt, and could'nt wait to get away from me.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
