I am starting to realize that the more you push to break people up, the more they will ally against you. Doubly and triply important to leave OP alone as much as possible.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
...My relationship with God is fabulous. I am being pursued by a European man. My self-esteem is slowly coming back. My kids respect me. I am being recognized for certain projects at work that have been very successful.
THERE IS LIFE AFTER THIS CRAP
I am so happy for you, Trusting!
Your post has lifted my spirits, and reminded me that we might all be experiencing adventures we never dreamed of just a few years ago.
Yes - it has required journeying through much pain and fear, but in many ways, the good in life will be more vivid and meaningful to us as it arrives. I have been noticing how beautiful the tree canopies are as their branches sway in the breezes. It's as if my appreciation for their beauty has increased this year. Little things like that are encouraging.
Now - to swing to polar opposite:
I wonder if your H is going quiet because he is acquiescing to the bimbo out of fear that he may lose her, after losing you already? Being left alone to face the destruction he has wrought would be a terrifying prospect.
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
Ex walked around in the house and eventually left after about 15 minutes.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I adopted her from Korea. The day she arrived, my ex's PA was full blown.
I remember holding her in my arms the first night I had her and ex telling me to "find a different father for her" because he was not going to stick around.
Amazing all the pain he put me through.
It is behind me now, I am thankful
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
She has brought way more joy than he has, that is for sure.
Thank God she came into my life.
My daughter got diagnosed with mono today. I called ex and told him. He seemed appropriately concerned. I really don't feel too much for him anymore. I don't know if that is good or bad.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
It is hard to feel something for someone that no longer exists.
I sometimes wonder if I am nuts.
Ex has not called to check up on daughter.
Very unlike him.
He always plays down other people's problems because he wants to be the center of attention.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
