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More emails from ex talking about how difficult mother's day was for him due to his mother being gone now for 5 years.

He continues to communicate back and forth.


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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Trusting,
I think the man needs someone to talk to who knows him and his past. Listen and validate (you know this already). He's bound to slip up and accidentally tell you what is on his mind. I suspect he's got some issues that he may need your assistance with at some point.

Hang in there.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Thanks Snodderly for the advice. He does seem to miss his mom so much. When she died, that was the beginning of his crisis.


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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
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Trusting, it sounds as if he really needs some empathy at this time....


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
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More emails from ex regarding his mother. I am just validating and acting like his friend. I have to say I am quite shocked by all of this.


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Married: 20 years
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OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
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T just caught up with your thread. Apart from your last few posts about how your H has been communicating positively with you I think we are married to the same man


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ACJ,

My condolences.....


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ex asked for forgiveness
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Trusting, I would not be surprised if you get a sudden burst of emotion or even an attempt to reconnect.

He probably doesn't have anybody else to talk with.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
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being his friend. that is what is right.
sorry about the child support issues..
thought of you much over my time "off".


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again


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where have you been Cagz?


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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