Ok, vacation suggestions first......because you definitely need one.
Outer Banks (not too far for you at least) Colonial Williamsburgh, VA Crabbing town on the Chesapeake Bay Cape Cod Rockland, Maine - lobstering town - very quaint
Second.......gee, big shock that the OW is separated. Um, hello, 3 months and married. How dumb is that? Of course, that is her problem, not yours. If your H allows himself to be sucked back in by her, then he's even weaker than we all thought. Let him go Kissak. Decide...what do YOU want?
Do you want a D? Are you done with him? Do you think he could ever become a man you could respect and trust?
If not, then why do you need to wait for him to get the papers to you? Do it yourself. Be proactive and control your own life.
I am in no way advocating D, I'm only asking the hard questions to hear your honest take on it.
So, what is your next step? What does Kissak want in her life? For her kids?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
well, the outer banks sounds like a good idea. I could take my good friend along with me. Just for a weekend getaway.
Second, I dont want a divorce, Im not quite done with him, dont ask me why please, lol. And I do think that someday he could become the man I once respected and that maybe I could trust him again. Key word "maybe".
My thing is I want to still be his friend. But if the OW ever came into the pic again, I couldnt be. Way too much drama with her. She doesnt trust him and then drags me into the drama. I dont wanna go there again, whether I move on or not.
I think about slowly just drifting away, but then would he? He is very childish on somethings like this.
Like he can go all day without speaking to me, but let me miss 2 or 3 texts and he starts with the "you not talking to me" stuff.
Im just tired and its all getting to me, I think I even resent him for just having so much free time. We both worked long hard days yesterday and he got to go home and relax and worry about him....i had to go home and take care of kids and home and work and then me later.
Im just tired and Im too young to be tired and worn out!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Well, Im exhausted! What a long day....worked 13 hours, then came home and worked some more! Meanwhile, my H is out getting drunk and texting me....I think Im gonna turn my phone off and go to bed. Im the one that should be getting drunk after the week Ive Had!!! (kidding)
I hate to say it, but sometimes I resent him for having so much free time....but I wouldnt trade my kids for nothing!
Hope you all have a happy mothers day!!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I have been working my butt off the last week, even have to work tomorrow!!!
I worked all day today, came home and mowed, and worked in the yard! Way too much to do still. Tired of not having any help and having to wait on other people.
Today, well my H watched the kids for a little while, then dropped them back off to me while the rest of the day he has spent relaxing, watching tv!!!
OH I NEED A HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!
sorry....just had to get it out and I hate to admit it, but I almost called my H and told him the same!! Safer to do it here!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
H and I had it out through text messaging the other day.
He has the kids this weekend but needed me to watch them while he works...which I usually do, but when I told him I had plans on Sunday but could take them with me...he told me not to worry about it the he would just handle it...then he told me that he would just handle BOTH days!
Oh, he was in a mood. I asked was he ok, he said "yea", then "I will be". He has been in a sour mood, then purks right back up. He did tell me that there was just alot of sh@t going on right now.....have no clue?
I wonder if the exOW has something to do with this, since her H and her split up, BTW, I havent even let onto him that I know and he hasnt mentioned it to me either.
Looking forward to the weekend though!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
So let him handle it. I know, I know....this is about the kids...blah blah blah. Seriously, he needs to learn how to live as a divorced person if that is what he wants. It's what he decided so let him deal with it.
exOW? Puhleeze......she's a non-entity right? You don't need to let her entertain your thoughts at all right?
There ya go......good girl......let it all go.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
