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looks like desperation on His part
trying to hold a R together
maybe the cruise will do it..for the moment anyway
but
if he loses the OW..what does he have left after all of this?
that in itself must be a bottom
peace


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Peace,

It just seems so desperate on his part. I can't help but feel so bad for the man he has become.


Me: 46 H:44
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Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
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PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
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Trusting, It just has to play itself out. The cruise is not going to fix anything. It may make things nice for a little while.

It is good that you're able to have some empathy for him.

I feel as if you have some insights into your H/OW situation that I do not have. I would have more hope if I had the sense that the relationship is not all rainbows and sunshine. I got some of that sense when I saw H's apartment, but I also see him fawning over her. I don't have the sense that the blush is really off the rose. But who knows. I don't have enough contact to really have a sense any more.


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Breton,

No relationship will last built on lies.

Your H is just as miserable as mine.

Mine just wears his emotions on his sleeve, he always has.


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Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
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My ex sent me an email today. It said:

"Happy Mother's Day"

First time in 3 years he has acknowledged any day to me.


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Did you text back Trusting?

I hope you did.

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Ali,

I did thank him for that. It caught me off guard.


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OW: EA began 2005
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ex asked for forgiveness
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Trusting,
Your ex is waking up just a little bit. When they begin recognizes special holidays, etc., it's a milestone in mlc time. I'm glad you texted him back. He may very well go back into the dark pit now for a while.

Happy Mother's Day!


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Trusting, that is great, if only for you.

I wish my H would have done something like that. I think my H has further to go.


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Ex was texting me back and forth all day yesterday about kid stuff. It was very weird..... Most of the stuff he was saying had already been communicated by my daughter.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11

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