Separated but keeping the Faith

[jaguilar]

Thanks SM, Kev, Stuck and Stacy - I don't want to be an emotional wreck but damn it if I thought I was done with the crying.

It seems as if she has called more now in the past week than ever. I've been pretty good about talking to her and being firm and listening to her talk about wanting to get D8's braces, getting stuff for D10's bday in two weeks.

Its gonna suck when I can't see the kids as often. It just doesn't seem right. I've always been there, my family and her family knows it.

Today my mgr asked me how I was doing. I told him hanging on by a thread. He said that it's what we do with that thread that makes us stronger.

Okay, I'n gonna say it. Everytime I see davidswife post (Stacy), I get that song in my head. Stacy's mom has got it going on...LOL, that was a good chuckle.

[K4D]

I still can't believe she is coming after you for child support when she makes so much more. Have you contacted legal aid yet? You have to fight that one and try and get 50/50 custody.

So are you going out with friends this weekend then? What are you planning on doing for your weekend out besides buying clothes? Are ya gonna go eat somewhere, go to a movie, a club, etc?

Kevin

[davidswife]

Jag,

Ah yes, "Stacy's Mom" the one hit wonder from Fountains of Wayne. To my mom's undying embarrassment, it is the ring tone on my phone.

And my mom's name is Josephine and she DOES have it going on

I'm glad to hear you've got plans for the weekend -- GAL, GAL, GAL!!

Stacy

[jaguilar]

Kev, I'm going to Buffalo Wild Wings for a high schools friends b-day. On most weekends, the kids nd I just hang out here, a park or at the movies. My son doesn't have a tee ball game this weekend. Even though it would probably get rained out.

LOL - she does?! That's funny. Josephine, my name is actually Joseph but I go by Joey.

Now I'v got that song in my head.

[jaguilar]

I bought the Walk Out Woman and Healing the Hurt in your marriage. Not sure if I should give them to W or not.

[PortlandDad]

Hey Jag,
I sent the Walk out Woman to my W and she actually read it and talked to me about it. If your W is receptive and has religious sensitivities, I think she might really benefit from WOW.

In fact, I had to buy my own copy after I sent it because she wanted to discuss some of the points in the book me and I hadn't even seen it at that point.

I was hoping that it had more help and advice for women who were in the throes of an affair other than "cut it out immediately", but it did get my W to thinking. I think Not Just Friends has a lot more help and advice, but it doesn't have the religious slant that WOW does.

[jaguilar]

Thanks PD, forget Oprah. PortlandDad should have his own book of the month club!

Yes, she has been going to church now, something she hasn't done all year. Trying not to be skeptical, giving her the benefit of the doubt.

[jaguilar]

I will add that I did not go to church last year with them because I thought I was supposed to stay away and not show the kids that we were a family. That is why I should have found DBing sooner. Now I know...

I'll check that book out too.

[davidswife]

Have you checked out AFWAW's sitch -- he's got GucciLoafer giving him some great advice.

It might be worth your time to check it out.

Stacy

[jaguilar]

Hey Stacy,

I'm going to check that out. Thanks for the 411. How was your day?