I am no expert but it does seem like your W is struggling with something internally and it's coming out as anger. Does she have anyone else close she vents to? My H doesn't talk about our sitch at all and so when we talk I get all of his frustration & anger.
Maybe she does want to open up? Sometime us women are difficult and think you men recognize what we want and when we need to talk.... but you don't recognize and then we get mad! Haha! Or at least that's what I've been told :-). I like how you asked her how you could help and how you two could get on the same page.
Hope you have a good day.
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
Just checking in on you. It looks like things are taking a turn for the worse in your sitch. I'm really pulling for you and your kids. You are a great father, and that is something the W can't take away from you.
God bless, my brother.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
Jag, it's just another step in the journey. I'm sorry that you aren't having a good day, but this sitch isn't over yet, is it? You still have a lot of DBing to do; lot's of folks here say that their best DBing happens after they are served.
What DB activities are you doing right now? Focus on those things: your kids and your life. Be strong for them and for yourself.
God bless.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
I wanted to know if my D had gone through but did not want to ask W incase it hadn't, so I called the Dallas Court house and asked them what the status is. They said my case was still opened which meant W had not filed the final D decree.
Instead of calling W, call the court house which I guess would be in Arlington for you? I'm not sure which. But they will have a status and be able to tell you if you are being served. This way you don't have to discuss with W.
Just a suggestion if you really want to know without encouraging W if she has not done it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
For some reason I was mispelling your memberID today. Ok, I found you.
You gotta post more often on here. It will be helpful especially for everyone following your story wanting to help out.
Now is where the real DBing begins. After being served. You can do it. You are a great father and that has to be noticed by her. You are a great guy and she should feel lucky to have you.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
