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Well my old thread finally locked. Here is my old sitch for anyone who was following..

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1696715&page=3#Post1696715

Well update. Saw WH at work today and told me he is "no longer manager". one of the guys that worked FOR him is not the "temporary manager" till the new sr manager starts. I asked him if it was because of the situation (H having affair with direct report), and he says "oh no", they were just looking for a scapgoat and replaced me.

He actually seemed like he was in a good mood. It was like he was sooo far in the fog and figure he got away with getting fired.

Doesn't he care he threw his career out the window for the OW???

I acted as if that was the reason he was replaced. Did not say it was because you had s-e-x with your direct report.

The worst part he might end up going to work in the building where the OW works and may actually sit in the same room.

How did the Karma bus pass me by again???

unbelievable.


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H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09
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That is really weird.

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Hope,
That is crazy!!! I understand the demotion, but not putting them together working.




Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.
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I am working home today because I just need to be out of there today.

Doesn't anyone get it. My only prayer is that if they work together, spend every night together it will take what is left of the fantasy away.

God has a plan and I have to have faith in that. I don't get it nor understand this.


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H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09
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Higher Ways
Steven Curtis Chapman



If I could only fly
I'd go up and look down from the sky
So I could see the bigger picture
And Lord if I could sit with You
At Your feet for an hour or two
I'm sure I'd ask too many questions
'Cause there's so much going on down here
That I must confess I just don't understand

BRIDGE
But I have prayed
And at your feet my whole life has been laid
So I wont worry I wont be afraid
'Cause my soul is resting on Your higher ways
Let the road ahead become unclear
I am Yours so what have I to fear
If my soul is resting on Your higher ways

CHORUS
Your higher ways teach me to trust You
Your higher ways are not like mine
Your higher ways are the ways of the Father
Hiding His children in His love

BRIDGE
So let it rain
And if my eyes grow dim with tears of pain
This hope I have will not be washed away
'Cause my soul is resting on Your higher ways

Someday I will fly and
Maybe then You will take me aside
And show me the bigger picture
But until I'm with You
I'll be here with a heart that is true
And a soul that's resting on
Your higher ways


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Puppy, that was beautiful.

Hope, all the best-laid plans. He's still foggy but have faith.


Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'
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That song helped me thru some real tough times in my life. I like its vulnerability, like the singer is not some "super Christian" who never goes thru moments of pain, confusion, helplessness and fear. Even Jesus Himself wept in the garden -- from fear -- the night before he was betrayed.

And yet, the song is hopeful, in its message that there IS a higher plan for us.

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Hope,
If the Karma bus passed you by again, it just means it's loading up. When it comes it will be FULL!

Working together and spending nights together will take it's toll. Been there, done that. It didn't take long and we were at each others throats!

I believe like puppy said, there is a higher plan for us. stay strong!


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Thanks all for stopping. I loved the verses. These past few days I feel as if this is in God's hands (not like it wasn't before but i was not allowing it).

I almost pity my H for what he missing out on and choosing something so much less.

God is working on him and God is workng with me. How can I go wrong. Take care.

toot toot Karma bus coming our way.


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bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
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bomb II - H moves 10/1
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Originally Posted By: hope3343

toot toot Karma bus coming our way.


Then its time to stay on the sidewalk...;\)


M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option


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