yes, definitely protect yourself. that is really bad that there is no separation laws. can lawyers do anything else?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I finally figured out how to add you all to my watch topics so I spend less time looking for everyone... Time is not my friend these days and I seem to have no time lately to get on DB and post or read.
LE and ST thanks for checking in... I need to catch up this week on you guys too. Not much new here... I've been holding on pretty good lately and have my January packed full of fun it seems - almost every weekend which is good ... and two weekends in Feb - a Cancun trip with friends and going out of town to visit freinds in Feb too with my girls. So my GAL'ing is good.. My H and I started switching the kids every other weekend now and I travel this week for work so he'll start taking the kids and dog to his one bedroom place during the week too... this should be fun.
I had a couple of bad days last week which surprised me... since I haven't been traveling for work I haven't talked to my H much and he doesn't call to talk to girls either.. today will be 4 days he hasn't called if he doesnt call tonight. amazing to me and my pain for this will never go away.
I saw another Lawyer and I feel to protect me and girls that I might file first .. there are some advantages to this here in Tx. But I'll talk to H first. I'm having some real fear and anxiety about having to support my girls by myself as the money I'll get won't cut it. Also if I can't stay in our house that is a whole other situation that overwhelms me.... My H and I worked so hard to have good financial stabilty and it could possibly be all taken away thru this divorce which scares me.
that is all for now..
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
{{{Tx}}}} I feel the same way you do, I was thinking how decently well hub and I really had just gotten to financially and now to cut it in half is really just stinky! I also feel like you this past week I have been debating whether to push for the sep agreement vs having hub do the work on that and it's really been stressing me..so I've decided to table it for myself at least for a few days
AS for your GAL'ing..CANCUN..how much fun is that??? That is awesome
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
TxMom, Cancun...what a great idea. I think the D law in Texas is the pits. We were the same way...financially stable if not great. After the D who knows.
{{{{tx mom}}}} Your so right about D in Tx. It stinks. Part of my problem is that H NEVER took care of the finances and really has no clue to has what impact this will have on both of us.
The OW is really pushing H about this D. He is walking around with $$ in his eyes thinking about him getting a cash settlement from our 401K etc. He will just blow it all. It burns me how hard we worked for what we had and giving it to OW.
TxMom, does your H realize how bad everything will be for him Financially or does he just "not get it". Pretty sad.
take care.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
No my H does not know what will hit him.. I do all the finances too for our family so I think it will be a shock when he can't afford the condo or house he wants and can't go on trips with out paying for it in credit cards... nice huh.
I will not be that wife that sit around separated for year or more just because... if he doesn't file this month I will in Feb b/c I do want the finances split up so I don't have to do it for him anymore.. we'll see. I have to keep praying that God will take care of me and girls financially.
hugs
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
TxMom, we are survivors but not the way we should have to live our lives because they "made a different choice".
Went to Atty, going to delay the process somewhat. Wait till D papers are served by sheriff, gives 20 days and move on from there, mediation - discovery - anything. In the meantime see if the A burns out.
If they last after all this -- then they deserve each other but I still do not see it lasting.
TxMom we all have to set our limits of what we can handle. I don't know how long I will last before I put down the rope. Just having a tough time imagining the rest of my life without my H. It is so sad and a tragedy that this has happened to us and our society with all these throwaway M.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
