Ok sorry have been busy crazy, apparently now H is refusing to use email as communication so I have been in contact with mediators giving them H's postal address and getting a visitation schedule for DS10 during football and post football.
I am sure H is pissed off to no end and now I do not care. He needs to grow up. He was cake eating and running naked through rivers of frosting and now he got it taken away. Oh Well. This Plan A was not a life style of sharing my H. Of course he told DD17 that it was perfect...LOL yeah ok.
Anyways got the stuff done with the mediators, nervous cuz I know he's gonna get pissed off again but this is what life as a divorced person could be like and he needs to feel it to see hey maybe this is not the life I wanted.
How are you all?
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
Examples WS: "As much as I love you, I can't see our M being happy" BS: "It must be difficult to go through life being so blind"
WS: "I left you long before the OP came into the picture" BS: "Perhaps I just imagined that was my (husband/wife) in bed with me the last few years"
WS: "My A with OP has nothing to do with us" BS: "You are correct, the A was and is completely your choice"
WS: "I am tired and too stressed to continue this" BS: "Yes, I can see how living a deceitful double life could be very fatiguing and hard on one's concience"
WS: "I just don't have 'those feelings' for you anymore" BS: "I can see why...it's hard to value your spouse when you don't respect yourself first"
WS: "We just aren't right for each other" BS: "Yes, it isn't right for anyone to cheat and abandon their M"
Here is an oldie but a goodie (X2)-- WS: "Me and OP are just friends at work" BS: "Funny, this the only 'friend' either of us has ever kept secret from one another"
WS: "I wasn't looking for a relationship--it just happenned!" BS: "Bad things tend to happen when good people do nothing to stop them"
and so on....
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
WS: "I just don't have 'those feelings' for you anymore" BS: "I can see why ....it's hard to value your spouse when you don't respect yourself first"
Thank Youuuuuuuuu.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
T2L, these are really good. Now I need to make a cheat sheet and write them on my hands!
Here is a few more...
WS: I just need to move out and learn to take care of myself BS: That's good because I was getting tired of taking care of you
WS: Don't I deserve some happiness? BS: Yes, we both deserve happiness
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
{{{{{TL2}}}}} as promised. Calendar: meeting 9-10, 1:30-2:30. Usually lunch 11:30...good luck .... DO I owe you big time????? thanks and keep me posted here or Yahoo.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
that is for tomorrow! Operation script. LOL How is your day going? Any news...or all of the same...
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
Hi T2L, darn it....we went to yoga at noon and we saw his car at the golf club so he was having lunch then. I appreciate your efforts. I know you will put on an Oscar performance!!!
How are you holding up? Any word from H through your kids?
Guess who is now coming over for dinner tomorrow??? Our H...My older D went out with him for most the day yesterday and she asked about Thanksgiving and now he is coming for the whole meal. He asked for me to send him a text what time. So I send him a text that dinner is at 3, (Dalls games starts at 3:30 - OW's team), so H sends me a text back saying why is dinner so late? So I send a text back saying we are going to the gym in the morning and then coming home making dinner. So I am sure OW is mad that H won't be for game. Oh well. We will be away for Christmas so this is the only time H gets to spend with both of his girls. Unbelievable.
Also one funny story. H took D over to his apartment for a visit. She comes home and says Mom I did a bad thing... She said she goes into his bathroom finds the OW flat iron and toothbrush in the drawer and decides to clean the toilet bowl with both. She then put both back in their proper places...I had to laugh...sick but funny.
We will all make it through tomorrow. God bless to you all.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
