How much longer do you have to be in the same house with this crap? I look forward to the day when your wife is far removed from your day to day life. You have my respect and condolences for the nightmare you are experiencing now.
Thank you KerryK. I agree. My W is on a mission to make my life miserable. Presently, her MO is to point out all my hypocrosies...and make me appear to be a liar and a hypocrite: -she slept with the kids for months....she is now on a search and destroy to catch me sleeping with them (they come downstairs sometimes in the middle of the night..but...less so) -she has locked the dog out in inclement weather for hours and consistently. Last night I let him out to pee and, having been up since 5 am, I passed out on the couch. SHE TEXTED ME FROM UPSTAIRS AT 1245AM to let the dog in and requoted what I said to her.
She just can't let go of anger, vindictiveness..and is on a mission to punish me and discredit me as a human being.
Last meeting with my L....I finally asked her if I could leave....that my W was making life miserable. She told me 'no'...that those are the D's here in NY that go on forever (when you leave, you must pay support for them...they like it...and they drag it out. By staying in the house, it forces a settlement, etc).
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
That is exactly the movie I've been thinking of for weeks as I've read this thread, Kerry!
FIB: So the enemy is under your roof and in your face telling you every bad thing that exists about you - some true, some embellished, some outright lies.
Good question AmyC. I do....NOTHING. I don't yell at her. I don't scream at her. I don't R talk. I don't compete to parent with her..no parenting pissing contests.
Could she be trying to build a case against ME now? Maybe.
Do I resort to stirring things up and get nasty? I don't think so. My L says, "let her parent. No one is going to take your kids away from you. You're a good father and I want to see you getting the kids 2-3 times during the week."
We'll see. Similar to AL, Jeff's state, men rarely get custody.
This morning, she was congested. She asked me if we have Sudafed. I went up and got her the box. In spite of ALL THE BS she's done to me, I still find it hard to do the same back to her. It may work against me.
I find it difficult to understand how they can carry the anger on such a daily basis. It consumes so much energy. How do they do it?
Anyway, Amy....although I don't go out of my way to do nice things for her, I don't return any of her horrible actions with ones of retribution. I focus on the kids.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
It's funny. I've seen parts of that movie. It is more my W than me. I have joked with her in easier days. "Just give me the flat panel TV and I'll be fine."
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB: So the enemy is under your roof and in your face telling you every bad thing that exists about you - some true, some embellished, some outright lies.
What do you do?
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Anyway, Amy....although I don't go out of my way to do nice things for her, I don't return any of her horrible actions with ones of retribution. I focus on the kids.
I would counter lies with the truth.
Somebody's gotta speak it.
I don't mean flip out on her and start raising hell.
I mean first chance you get, counter.
Then go about your business.
Let her flip if she's gonna flip (obviously you wouldn't do this in front of the children).
You might not be prepared to do that.
I can without a doubt tell you that's what I'd do though.
Hell I've done it.
And the side of the fence you are on as far as DBing goes is irrelevant.
Hang in there, FIB.
There's more road behind you than there is left up ahead.
Noted amy....I'll consider it next time an overt lie occurs. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
