Well yeah, but say I then went and met someone last Sat and this girl was keen, I'd then have 2 to be playing games with and that's not me. Maybe loyal was a strong word or maybe I'm just so out of the loop I've really no idea what I'm doing !!!
As I say Mike, really no idea how all this dating, meeting girls etc works. To me, if you met someone, saw them a few times you sort of assume you are seeing them no ? Admittedly nothing serious as very very early days, but how can you ever develop a new relationship if for the first few weeks your both sleeping around with any old person
I'm a very loyal person so as I thought we were sort of seeing each other,
after only a week?? I don't get that..
I'm with mike here. Do not date anyone exclusivly right off the bat. Play the field, have a good time and don't tie yourself down so soon. This is your time to enjoy yourself and the company of many different women as long as you are up front with them its all good.
As I say Mike, really no idea how all this dating, meeting girls etc works. To me, if you met someone, saw them a few times you sort of assume you are seeing them no ? Admittedly nothing serious as very very early days, but how can you ever develop a new relationship if for the first few weeks your both sleeping around with any old person
Noone said you have to sleep around. What ever happened to getting to know someone first before jumping into bed with them. I know its been a long time but try just DATING first and then move on to sex. That way you can see a couple of ladies and not hurt any of them if it does not work out. How do you know what you like or want if you shack up with the first piece of a** that comes along.
As I say Mike, really no idea how all this dating, meeting girls etc works. To me, if you met someone, saw them a few times you sort of assume you are seeing them no ? Admittedly nothing serious as very very early days, but how can you ever develop a new relationship if for the first few weeks your both sleeping around with any old person
DAMNNN Arthur..I would think that if you want to see someone exclusivly then you better open your lips and communicate that with them. Assuming will get you nothing..if you had not talked to her about this then she has "no frinkin clue" LOL
I've been out of the game 9 years but I don't think the game is played that way..Communication is still the big thing..
This is true Mike, but I expected to see her again a few more times before we had that chat if it was even needed.
Tim - Not sure how it plays out over there, but believe me, if your not trying to bed someone inside a couple of dates (especially if you've been in their bed twice), they will go off you pretty fast or think your weird. Most people generally sleep with people the first night these days, I did well to wait 2 days I thought !!!
I didn't expect to meet someone I thought I really clicked with so fast and had a good time with, but hey, I'm not concerned if she blows me out, I'd just rather know. That is all I want from her and don't think to much to ask !!!
Tim - Not sure how it plays out over there, but believe me, if your not trying to bed someone inside a couple of dates (especially if you've been in their bed twice), they will go off you pretty fast or think your weird. Most people generally sleep with people the first night these days, I did well to wait 2 days I thought !!!
Dayyum..Mikey needs to move to England!!! He'll be "getting it like he ought to be getting it!!!"
G - I'm not sure I got an opinion from you from that except to not worry and go play the field ? is that right ?
oh, and we met the Sat night, spent 24 hrs together, then went out Tues (ahem night) and I then stayed over there Thursday to. Bit much in hindsight yes, but my point being we saw each other after the initial bit and she had many times to call it off, so I felt we connected a little. Ah well, I'll fill you in if I ever get a reply.
Ok, girls opinion here, and one that just get "stood up" so to say by OM.
My intentions that night were purely to, well, get laid. I know, I am a diry girl, which is the total opposite of me, but I kind of missed out on my teens and 20's, been with H only, and kind of had to get something out of the way.
The beginning of our night was spent with him saying how much he had liked me for years, holding my hand, kissing me, his hand on my leg while we were at the casino playing black-jack. Things that were more than just getting laid. It felt godd when I hadn't felt it for a while.
The sexual tension was there all night and we released it. We psent the morning laying there being affectionate, cuddling, with HIM talking about how he was going ot take me out that week, this isn't the last time he was going ot see me, although I said that was just fine if it was. heinsisted on my number and before he left, he said "see you tuesday."
He works at the same place as my cousin. He said he was defintely going ot call me that week to her. H didn't. My cosuin actually e-mailed him. he said he lost my number and needed it again. She gave it to him. he never called.
So, I didn't want an R either Arthur, but I most certainly like being played with. If you don't ever want ot see me again, fine. i established that was fine. but don't lie, don't pretend, I am not a kid. What sucked about this was he knew what H did to me, you would htink he would have had a little ocmpassion and not totally stand up a woman who got left by her H. he isn't that bright though.
I hate to say it, but her answer to the text as kind of the same crap OM was giving my cousin. OM never called.
Dating can suck big time, and dating could be lots of fun. I am interested to see though, some of you men do think like us women! I wish I could find a man I was on the same wavelength with.
Arthur, you go out alot, meets lot of women. My butt gets out once in a bluemoon (although I usually do meet a guy when I go out I realize. Maybe I have "Desperate Divorcee" written on my forhead".) I think of you DONT look for it, it is going to pop up when and where you least expect it.
see GM, I don't have a problem with this if both see things the same way..I mean a F***Buddy is a F***Buddy as long as both people are in it for the same thing. He should not have led you on. He should have been straight up and to the point. I don't see you as a dirty girl either. Sex is SEX, we all want it we all need it..if nothing else for the relief and companionship..even if that companionship is short lived..
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oh, and we met the Sat night, spent 24 hrs together, then went out Tues (ahem night) and I then stayed over there Thursday to.
Stayed over the first night??? stayed again Thursday?? Banged both nights?? think she may feel smothered by all that texting your doing. Doesn't this set off red flags for you A? Alarms blaring?? She may do this all the time..she may be a playa..I say expect nothing..enjoy the ride while it last..
