Lodo, so sorry. I'm surprised your XW or your L or someone didn't warn you!!! That's horrible to do it that way!!! Well always horrible, but ykwim. I don't know what to say really, but I do know that you are a wonderful guy and deserve a wonderful R with someone that can really be there for you. I know that will happen for you when you're ready eventually. ((((Lodo))))) Karen
Thanks everyone. I'm okay. It sure has given me closure in a big way.
I think you're right RMG - never thought about it that way. My XW was never very empathetic, but she is extremely good at self-justification. I remember her telling me how she ended the few pseudo-relationships she'd been in. Was much the same. She felt bad that she'd destroyed the friendship but didn't think about it too much beyond that. Then when they wouldn't talk to her, she acted like it was all their deal. Obviously she can be a pretty unemotional person.
Problems also going on at work, mainly because of my unproductivity during sitch but combined with my supervisor's lack of good management. Guess who's been set up as the fall guy. I need to re-evaluate a lot of stuff, I guess, and figure out where I'm headed. In the meantime, I can certainly turn things around now that I know the lay of the land. I'll play their game until I don't need to anymore.
I guess I need to finally address the question, what happens next?
I guess I need to finally address the question, what happens next?
lodo
No, I'm a procrastinator and I think waiting is always a good idea! It seems like very soon and maybe not a good time for you to be making big changes anyway? I mean you could start thinking about changes you want to make, but I don't think you should feel pressured or rush into anything now. ((((Lodo))))) Karen
It seems like very soon and maybe not a good time for you to be making big changes anyway? I mean you could start thinking about changes you want to make, but I don't think you should feel pressured or rush into anything now. ((((Lodo))))) Karen