Wow! Thanks so much everyone! Yes, there was a huge shift the other day. Even my W seems more relaxed...and very present. It's hard to describe because I don't think I've EVER had this kind of "attention"...except perhaps when we first began seeing each other as boyfriend/girlfriend. Ahh...so many years gone by this way...
There were a couple of things she said the other day that I forgot to post about, which were also interesting... - She said that she was pissed and violated/betrayed that I snooped, but she realized how insignificant that violation was compared to her A and kind of recognized how I feel with her betrayal. - She went on to say that most people think that because their S has an A makes them think that they are capable of doing this again. She said that it was the opposite for her...that because she had one and understands how awful it is makes her NEVER want to do that again.
So, good things yesterday? 1) My W e-mailed me asking how I felt after our big talk. 2) When I got home from Yoga last night she told me she wanted to visit with Divorcee friend for a couple of hours w/promises of !@#$ when she got home. Promise delivered! 3) She sat next to me before leaving for Divorcee's, looked me in the eyes and told me she loved me. 4) She made sure I had a lunch to take to work yesterday and made me a nice dinner upon my arrival home.
No complaints here. She seems softer, more gentle, less guarded...all within the last couple of days. Interesting... I told her the other day (before our big talk) that I've been having a real hard time lately, like how it was when I first found out about her A. I couldn't explain it, but was hoping that I was shedding the last skin of much of the pain I've felt over the last couple of years. Perhaps we both shed our skins? I do know we're at a very different place today than even Sunday. Hmmm....
Take care, everyone. And thanks again for the visits.
lisa 
