Lissie, love you too. How are you, by the way? You are on my mind.
This is a man that skims off the top to survive.
No better description has been said about my H. You are entirely right about this, and you never got to meet him.
I wouldn't settle. Not now. I know he isn't what I deserve. I have started praying hard that God take away the hurt and other feelings I still have lingering about. I want to wake up one morning and not long for what can never be.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
hope I knocked om my Neighbors door a few weeks ago her D was to watch my kids that night I told her I was S so H would drop kids home
she said she was S too I was really surprized, so I asked what happened she said all the usual things like we have all heard- the talk Ive been unhappy for 19 years and he just left..out of state he is around 60- shes much younger so I told her about MLC, and this site, the book ect. she said she was his MLC and hes only allowed one case closed peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Wow, peace. So he couldn't work it out with the woman he took up with during his crisis? What a sad life that man has led! Nothing against your friend; I feel sorry for her (hopefully she wasn't a willing ow cheating with him). There are a lot of damaged souls walking about.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Hope I didnt ask her many details about their R or how it started I just assumed from her comment: she was his MLC.. I dont know her well she does look very torn and he is gone He left another family and D16 so He was a case of one mlcer who will continue his run or probably will find another R thinking that will fix him It is very sad I know exactly how you feel and when I see H getting back in shape and appearing to come too even a little I get scared b/c I dont know what he is thinking or if I will be apart of his life when he does get it together peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Just because he looks happy, does not mean he actually is....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
You have really given it your all. Now is the time for you Hope!!! You are a strong and special person and will heal. It will take time but look at all that you have accomplished.
Change of geography, change of clothes, change of homes, change of who he is dating. None of it will work. He is not being true to her, he is not being true to himself.
This is a man that skims off the top to survive.
This is so true. They makesuperficial changes thinking that they are really and that indoing so they have changed their lives. Not so.
And skimming the top to survive...no truer words to describe many a MLCer.
Hope, you have done everything, EVERYTHING and you can rest soundly at night knowing that. Your H is not the man you want or need him to be in order to make a R work. You deserve someone as wonderful and caring as you.
