ok, I just have to unload the gems I stole from MLC (nutty chick, lwb)
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You drop all notions of how someone is supposed to act. You stop trying to control their actions through your own because you can't control them anyway and you just live your life and let them live theirs
OW is not a threat to me. She did not break up my marriage, home, and family. It was broken a long time before she came along.
...people tend to forget the bad and remember the good. Human nature is a bit like that. You go on holiday and have had a great time you tend to remember the two sunny days, forgetting the 5 rainy ones and the long queue at the airport … If you don’t already; try to journal what is going on, on a day to day basis. It is a great way to offload anxieties and worries and to see how your thoughts change over time. It is also good to look back on for patterns in your H behaviour and your own and see if you can see a cycle...
Give up ow. You have got to. She will eat you alive. Not physically, but your OBSESSION (yes, obsession) with her is going to destroy you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
hey girls)))) doing alright, a little scuffle about H using the stupid shed he built in the back of the house, but other than that ok. He built this club house/shed for his stuff, he has his things there and wants to be able to keep his stuff there for 5yrs (until im done paying him), my L told me he should only have a few mths, when the D is final on Jan, how would I feel to still have him come over still? we had agreed to 2x a month, but come to think of it, 5yrs is a long time for the stbx to show up. I didn't mind that at all before, but now things are different.
ANYways, it's a beautiful today and my dad is fixing my car's breaks less $$ to pay to the mechanic.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Tell him your new boyfriend will not appreciate ExH coming over to visit his things while you are both nude sunbathing in the back yard. He should get the picture!
wow, 5 years? that is tough. I wouldn't want h's stuff here for that long. I'm already annoyed at the stuff that is still here in the house, even though most of it is in the basement at this point. I sure as heck don't want it around after the divorce.
no words of advice, just sympathy. and lol at kml's post.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
less $$ to pay to the mechanic.