lwb, its funny you should say that as its crossed my mind way more than once. How is that working out? I don't think she would/will be willing to do that because then she doesn't have any leverage to keep H around.
She doesn't realize that all of this game playing is just making a bad situation worse and when push comes to shove legally, he has rights just like she does.
So sad, to be willing to go to this length to keep someone you don't really want in the first place. After re-reading those texts she sent me the other night, I wouldn't let her raise my dog, let alone a child. This one will probably be no different than her last though. She lives with Mommy & Daddy and goes out to play, while they do the parenting. I can't imagine how excited they will be to find out that the Baby-Daddy is a married man with 2 kids of his own...to be a fly on the wall.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I'm having a really hard night, thinking that maybe I should just go ahead and walk away.
Apparently OW had some sort of preliminary appointment regarding her pregnancy and H ended up going with her. I called him and he lied about where he was. He had told me he wasn't going to go.
I don't know how I'm going to be able to keep myself together with this, I don't even know if its worth it...
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M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Oh I am so sorry. If you can, pop over to "Surviving The Big D", and find Hope11. She has a story you can read. She has been there done that with the pregnant OW. I am so sorry, your pain must be so raw right now.
1. Guess what IS worth it?? Taking care of yourself and having a nice weekend with your kids. It can be a quiet weekend, but pick one thing a day that your kids would find fun, and DO IT. To get through the raw, horrible times, I figured out, "I can hide from my kids and cry, or I can read them a book. Either way, it would take about 10 minutes, and what would be better for my kids?"
2. Enough of H's HUGE drama. I wouldn't ask another word about OW and her drama. Just chant "Not my mess, not my mess". No snooping, nothing. Just 'turn it off' as much as you can.
lwb, its funny you should say that as its crossed my mind way more than once. How is that working out? I don't think she would/will be willing to do that because then she doesn't have any leverage to keep H around.
Well, its rough, but she has adopted him and I think he is about 10 yrs old now. She is a good person and I know she treats him as her own. The OW faded into the sunset, I guess seeing the pregnancy didn't really 'win' the H, so gave up the child too. Sad, really.
Thanks for the Easter wishes. I was a total mess the other night and right now its like being on a roller coaster, one minute I'm ok and the next I'm just a puddle.
There was more and more drama, what a surprise. H and OW are fighting now because she is actually upset that he had to/chose to spend Easter with his children and me rather than go and play cards with her. This woman is a complete psycho and it just gets worse by the day.
I am so ready to be done with this drama, but a part of me wants to help him as a friend.
I don't know. I'm so confused. I understand why he now has to do the "right thing", but its just so damn hard for me to be ok with it.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
