FLTC: FROM IRAQ

[MichelleLT]

Congratulations on her first college acceptance! That's pretty exciting news.

I can't come close to topping AG's advice so I won't try.

[No_hill_for_a_Swimmer]

Hey FLTC
2nd on the Congrats. I hope your W understand the college funding vs cost of two households.

[Matilda2]

Just a quick note to say I'm not deserting you, FLTC...just flying home for a week ("home" being my parents) You're in good hands I know! Take care! Stay safe!

[FLTC]

Thanks to all. No comes the 23K bill. There's never a good time for a divorce, but this is just ridiculous timing, should it occur. D17 will have to do what I did. Pay off a huge loan. Again, though, I beleive that she truly has to be "miserable" (in the marriage)as she previously described herself. On of her lines alsoo was "If you think I want anything other than a divorce, you're mistaken"

Another day..........

[catfan]

Hey FLTC! Checking in with you and see the song continues to play. Well good news on D17's first acceptance letter. There's something very empowering about getting that first one. :-)

Now have faith that the money aspects will work out in the end. Don't fret too much about it and don't let those worries take control of you. Things always have a way of working themselves out in the long run if we just let them. Focus on what you can control and not what you can't.

[whatisis]

Just wanna say Hi, FLTC. I've been busy nursing a cold. Do you get those in Iraq?

[MichelleLT]

W is being selfish. This is not news. That is par for the course it seems. Don't let it get to you.

Things will work out. If that means D has some loans, then she's in the same boat as most of the world. Or it means she works a little. It's not the end of the world. It certainly doesn't preclude her from merit-based scholarships and it certainly won't stop her from going to college. You will provide for her as best you can and that is what matters.

[FLTC]

Thanks all. wii: the stuff here is worse than colds, because it's freaky, funky bacteria and viruses that no one has any tolenance for/immunity to. Hacking chest stuff. The fastest way to lose 20 pounds is to drink the tap water. All water we consume is bottled. The group surgeon is busy giving out tons of antibiotics (as well as Ambien and probably Zoloft by the handful) No one sleeps soundly here, no matter what. Thanks CF. Sorry to hear the latest twist on your thread. Ughhhh. Michelle: Thanks for the affimration re: W. It ALL seesm so unecessary and self-centered, but AG is right. It's how the WAS perceives it, that is the "super delegate" vote here!

[FLTC]

Got an email from someone I work with back in "The World". Soeone reported that they saw my W. and reported that she looked "awful".

It never ceases to amaze me why people think divorce is the answer except in rare occassions. Ours is not to wonder why........

[MichelleLT]

Because it has become socially acceptable - not only to D, but we are even encouraged by society to keep looking for better and newer things whether it's an iPod, computer, car, house, or spouse. It's still stupid though.

However, the WAS has to figure that out in their own time. Your W looks "awful" because she is miserable and angry and is lashing out at the world because she doesn't know how to fix it. She is reacting to her emotions, not rational thought, and she is not thinking. That sort of thing wears on a person after a while, and it shows.

My FIL told me the other day that both of his siblings were divorced, and both of them regretted their divorce, but it took one of them 5 years to realize it. In both cases, the LBS had moved on and found someone else.

Neither of us can predict the future, not can we read minds. Otherwise we wouldn't be in our respective stitches. You are doing the best you can with what you have. That is what matters. Good intentions really do mean a lot.