wowsa! That second article is AMAZING!! Thank you so much for posting it!!! I just cut and pasted it into an attachment I'm going to send to spouse! If she's working she will need these tools. I have decided to share the wealth of info I've come across in the last ALMOST TWO YEARS and see what she chooses to do with it. (Lucky her!)
And Saffie, I always think you are on the right course!
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
Both of those articles were great and very helpful, thanks so much for sharing!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Thanks for the second article. It was very interesting. Not particularly hopeful as my H is still deeply commited to OW and keep threatening to file for D, but I guess I don't know what the future really holds.
My H definitely has family and cultural reasons for his PA as his father had multiple affairs and has been D 3/4 times. I really wish he would take after his stepfather who has been married to his mom for 23 years now.
Amusing thought for the day: "I don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine’s Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon." - Anonymous
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
The past few nights I have been putting my cell phone next to my side of the bed. He has been confused by this. "Why is your phone near on your nightstand?" "In case I get a message..." "Who would you get a message from?" "Oh...a friend." I have noticed a slight change in his cell phone usage since I have did this.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Yeah I thought so. I accidentally changed my phone to vibrate and it set off a little sound. And he was curious what it was. LOL! I just let him keep guessing. The truth is that no one is going to call me at night, but it does give him a picture of how silly his phone usage has became.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
My goodness...how long does this addiction last? When is he going to understand that the R with her is OVER. Move on already. *sigh* I am frustrated and needed to say that...
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
