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Well...weekend was OK.




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Haven't posted on my own thread in a month.

Happy Valentine's day everyone.

First time in 18 years I haven't taken my sweetie out for Valentine's day.

I'm pretty hollow inside today.

Asked her to go out on Valentine's day. She said she would have dinner with me, but not for Valentine's day. She said she was surprised I would ask. And she said I obviously am not aware of our how dire our situation is (she still wants me to move out).

Felt kind of foolish for asking her.

I had ordered some flowers for to be delivered to her on Valentine's day. Then I cancelled the order last night.

And, strange enough...the last thing I want to hear is, "I'm sorry Theoden."

Don't know what I want to hear.




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Hi Theo,

Nice to hear from you again. You shouldn't feel foolish for asking her out. You should feel noble, as you are. As for your wife, all I can say is: Happiness is a state of mind. If she wants to be happy, she can change her mind. She is making what could be a pleasant situation unpleasant. And she must get some warped satisfaction out of making your life miserable. Too bad she has to be miserable to do it. Most people think life's too short to wallow unnecessarily in unhappiness, but if it brings her joy....

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You know that canceling the flowers was a very good move. I didn't even acknowledge VD with my wife. The kids got stuff from both of us (and my parents). But no acknowledgment from either of us to the other.

And I am not disappointed at all. It's my future. May as well get used to it. And maybe enjoy it....

I am at a bar by myself now (free wifi!!). It's "lonely-hearts" night... yeah, there's some talent here... or maybe it's my beer goggles...


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Happy Valentines day Theo... Its her loss and don't feel silly asking her out.

sara is right.. life is short, you are trying to make the best of it, while she is playing the miserable card.


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Sara and TAL,

Thanks...why be miserable when you can have fun?

Her loss.

Went to a bar tonight, Mark. 3 Frozen Margueritas

--Theoden




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Theo,
Your wife is being ridiculous.

I would've gone to dinner with you ;\)

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I'm not going to give you an "I'm sorry" Theo. I am going to say just remember that next time you get the urge to do something romantic or out of the ordinary for her. It's her loss.


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Theo - you are so much better than all this crap your W keeps coming at you with. I know you have children to think of - you know how much I value the children - but you have value as well and your W needs a dose of reality.

I'm sorry - she just really pisses me off.


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Saffie Dear,
You have mail.




Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.
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