Feeling like I am fighting a breakdown today. Kids are having a really rough go of it and it's breaking my heart. Just trying to get thru the day without losing it.
ah honey! I'm sorry. Beat on the bed since STBX is not around for you to slap! Wish I could make it better. Just yesterday I was thinking I have a friend I'd love to fix you up with...like that would solve anything, but I WAS thinking it...
Breathe, stretch, breathe again, have a good cry if ya need it...kick the cat. No wait, ASPCA...go find a place where you can lose it and not have it trickle down onto the innocents. You'll feel better if you get some of it out.
This sucks for kids but how lucky yours are to have stable you!
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
What do you think would help you? Love you girl!! I can't imagine how hard it would be to see your kids hurting like that. You are doing a GREAT job being there for them. They share their pain with YOU. How lucky they are to have you. Your kiddos are strong, and you can have total confidence that you are not causing them this pain. This may be when they were meant to learn to deal with serious pain in life and things not going the way they thought they would and should. That book Who Moved My Cheese just came to mind. It's such a simple story. I wonder if you could tell an even simpler version of that to children their age.
Letting it out can help and be healthy, but I know that doesn't always seem to help you. Relaxation? A bubble bath? Yoga? Reading a little out of a book on this subject maybe, might be just the reminder you could use to know that this is normal and that you're doing the right things here, and might give you a new idea you can try out. Having something I can do or try always seems to help me. And focusing on the positives. Can be hard to do when you're really hurting, but it helps. What's good?
You're doing a wonderful, fantabulous job, babe. You matter.
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
That's for sure, Fig. Sprinkles are good. Irish coffee, mmmm, even better. But Julie doesn't like coffee. I'll take hers, and give her more Sprinkles on top of the whipped cream on her hot chocolate. I love your suggestion to just throw snowballs at the girls. Now that's a truly great idea, I'd be sure to do that myself if it were me.
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
Sorry you're having a rough go of it. What if you spent 5-minutes visualizing yourself past the problem when everything is wonderful? Really experience it in all its glory....because if you can project yourself to that place, then you'll realize that this pain and difficulty is temporary.
I know it's hard to see your babies suffer, but they will be okay. I know this because they have you as a mommy, and, despite your H's selfish actions, you know he does love them as well. Love conquers all...and your children are loved.
I vote for play too. Go play in the snow. Run and yell and work out that energy into a good place.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
