Hi everyone... I've been a little incommunicado b/c I haven't been feeling top notch lately... emotionally.
I really missed my kids last weekend while they were with X. I'm feeling a little extra emotional right now so that isn't helping. I feel like I have some unfinished business with old friendships that I've chosen to let go of b/c of their stance on my current sitch and I can't decide if that's fair to them- and what is fair to me? Then I got another letter from X's L and you know how those affect me. Basically saying that b/c of the spousal and child maint. X is paying, he is unable to share in the cost of the daycare. WTF?
I did get my keys back from him this weekend. Didn't bother telling him I changed the locks over 3 months ago. My clients are insane and that helps me realize my life isn't so bad, but sometimes that isn't much of a consolation, kwim. And... I was totally entertained (tongue in cheek) by druggie sister turning my mom's house upside down looking for the $90 in tip money she lost from the night before. Must have been time for a fix and she was short-tempered. If it wasn't so pathetic, it would have been funny.
But... on a brighter note... I had 'coffee' w/ D4 this morning before taking her to school and she is doing so well. D6 and I have a 'lunch date' at school as well today. So things will be getting better soon. Just working thru some stuff, as you all know that goes. Life is still beautiful. And I'm still so lucky. Just having one of those weeks.
Then I got another letter from X's L and you know how those affect me. Basically saying that b/c of the spousal and child maint. X is paying, he is unable to share in the cost of the daycare. WTF?
BLEH
sorry about that mamma.
I love that you had coffee with your D4 in the morning, that is so sweet.
And enjoy your lunch with D6 at school later today.
I was in a rush this morning and didn't get to cuddle the kids (sigh)
have fun
Live Simply Love Generously Care Deeply Speak Kindly Leave the rest to God
Sorry you're going through a rough patch. I know you'll come out of it smiling and brighter than ever! But sorry for the painful part right now.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Happy Monday! I'm so glad that you have the girls back. I know how hard it is for you when they're not with you. You've done an amazing job of letting their lives stay as carefree as possibly in light of everything that you have been through. How much better can your day be after it starts out like that?!?!?!
I'll be interested to hear what your lawyer has to say after you relay the latest bit of communication. It will all work out for the best. When you live by the rules, and do what's expected, there is a reward. Maybe you can't see it now but you will!
These down times happen to all of us. You need to make some fun plans for the times when X has your girls. Even if it's just a manicure and a movie...treat yourself!!!
can you meet with your lawyer and have him explain how this works?
I don't get that
I have a conf call scheduled w/ my L this week to try to pull together an offer. I don't think he gets to pick and choose when daycare is a convenient expense for him. So, we'll see how that goes. Just must be frickin' nice.
As far as the 'coffee' morning went, it was actually hot chocolate and she was more excited about the tin of lipgloss I gave her (remember those old tins that the top would slide off of?? I saw a 3-pack at Target and couldn't resist for nostalgia). So she sparkled all the way to daycare. D6 planted a smooch on my cheek that left lipstick marks so she had the red gloss confiscated by me and replaced with the glittery clear. Much more appropriate. Also very excited.
