Thank you! After all this is over with you. I think you would be a great DB Coach! S
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Well, H went out of town with the kids last night. I called to say hi to them today. H asked did you go on a date last night. I said it was my business and why when you had OW and I'd ask you you'd say it was none of my business. He said because you would have been hystarical. Maybe??? Funny though that he's asking....no I didn’t but if it gets his goat thinking I did well then??? This is such a dance/game what ever you want to call it. But whatever works I guess. I'm not really lying just not answering
Oh, we also got in a little spat when he was leaving. He was putting the kids in the car and I picked up a piece of paper on his floorboard. I knew what it was it was the phone number of one of our friends. I had seen it before when I borrowed H truck. H yelled hey quit being nosey and take this. He was trying to hand something to me. I got mad and went into the house. Came back out and kissed kids goodbye. I later sent a text saying I was sorry I wasn't being nosey I had seen it before and new who it was. If it was something bad for me to see you wouldn't have left it out. I also said I didn't appreciate being yelled and talk to like that. He said he was sorry. I also said you have always said that I am too quick to react I believe it is you now. H has such a short fuse with me. It's funny how time makes you forget the negative things. I guess as DBers we are supposed to look at those things at a later date? I was waiting for that to happen but we mgot through it pretty well.
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M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Thank you Trip. I hear ya. I have to talk myself down, all the time, not to go too far. Patience,patience.....GAL..mystrey...and the hardest for me, distance. Give me an inch.... S
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
H called and not sure how we got on subject but we were talking about sex. I guess I'm a little confused here. Sex was my way of reeling H back in. Now my dilema is, is that all he wants. HE keeps mentioning no strings, no traps etc. I feel that he is testing the waters or he wouldn't be talking to me at all. I said something about well all you want is sex and won't take me out and he said your right. This was well into the converation. I didn't intiate the sex talk. He said if I wanted to stop we could????Any opinions out there. Out of all that I have tried to do this was the only thing he responded to. This was with OW and without. I don't know if I should just go with it or stop and see. I don't want him to use me for this in between OW and not really wanting to be with me. Here goes my head thinking again..He seems happy to be with me when we are. Nice and friendly when we talk. We joke and laugh, which we haven't done forever. May be I'm just being stupid. I go back and forth because, how do you believe after all the lies???? Thanks, S
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I don't really know what to say. This issue is not "relevant" to my sitch, so i haven't thought about it or studied it much. But here is a link to something Michele wrote on the topic, and hopefully it will help: Link
Hope it helps, Nomopo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Well it was like she wrote it for me. Since in has been on and off over the last 5 mos. and now on regularly for only a week I guess I'll keep up my journey for a while and see what happens. The article was very helpful to me. Thank you NOMO!!
That's my brain thinking again. I wish there was a switch to just go with the flow and relax. I'm grateful for this place to be able to put it in words and get advice before I act. What a find this place is for all of us.
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M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
And remember, you still can't believe what he says. I'm not saying he's lying or that the opposite is true when he says he has no feelings or its just physical or it doesn't mean anything. I'm just saying you can't trust what he says either way. Its alien spew still, right?
Last edited by Nomopo; 07/01/0711:08 PM.
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
