Well I will be leaving in a couple of hours for this date "as friends" Really not sure what to expect from her. She did text me today to confirm she is meeting me at my house at 7pm.
When she told me she can't date me right now Weds nite and then still agreed to go out tonight as friends, is typical for MLCers to pull back like and should I act "as if" we are still dating tonight? I mean without all of the romantic stuff and pretend that speech never happened?
After about 6 weeks of dating my exW she hits this past Weds with the speech again. She loves me but doesn't have feelings like she should. We need to be friends and maybe somewhere down the line things will change. So OK this is all posted in this thread.
Here is some info that I left out about the convo Wed nite
We had already agreed to go out last nite a few weeks ago and she agreed to still go as "friends" as long as I wasn't taking her to a hotel. I jokeingly no we are going the casinos , but make sure you were a black thong in case. She says "why you won't see it, just take a cold shower" I laughed and went home.
Next day she text me "r u warmed up yet" (meaning from the cold shower) I said yes it was nice and warm, but don't forget that black thong. She replies, we'll see.
Ok no back to the date.
She comes over looking stunning, I compliment her and gave her a kiss on the cheek.
As soon as we arrived at the casinos, I decided to see just how much attenttion was willing let me give her. I brushed my hand against hers and she grabbed and held it most of the night as we walked around. She left put my hand on her knee while we were playing table games and she had no problem letting me put my around her waist.
Now this is the most touching she has let me do since we started dating.
It was getting late and I asked her if she wanted to leave and go back to my house for a little bit. She said fine. We get there and it is a chilly rainy nite so I turn on the fireplace and lay on the floor next to it with a blanket and pillow. She came right over and layed next to me and intiated ML!
I am in total shock and disbelief.
She text me on the way home thanking for a great time and said the sex is still great. She has never sent a text thanking me, I always intiated one.
OK so what is going on here?
How does she go from I don't feelings like I should, to ML.
As she was leaving I did act as if and said we'll do this again real soon and she said we'll see.
This is a tough spot. It's so hard to know what she is thinking, impossible really.
I think it's best to just keep doing what you have been, and play it by ear. See if there's another good opportunity to ask her out soon, maybe she will even drop a hint.
I wonder if she was testing her "feelings". If so, seems like you passed! It may actually make her even more cautious, though, so she might cool off a bit now. Be prepared.
My only caution would be to not get into this too deep too fast. I know that's probably impossible, but just try if you can.
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My only caution would be to not get into this too deep too fast. I know that's probably impossible, but just try if you can.
yes I know what you mean and it will be very tough but I do think I need to cool my jets and not let her think I am putting pressure on her to commit to a R.
