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Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.


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MikeP #2939959 11/30/22 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted by MikeP
Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.

It's only sh!t if you let it be sh!t....

Don't let this define your moods...

Tell me something about yourself that you are proud of...

Nothing sitch related, or kid related....

Something about you....

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MikeP #2939960 11/30/22 01:10 PM
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Originally Posted by MikeP
Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.

The emotional rollercoaster is real. I'd have days where I felt on top of the world. Next day I felt like the crud at the bottom of the swamp. The key is staying busy and GAL. Always be doing. Idle hands are the devil's playground.


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SteveLW #2939961 11/30/22 01:47 PM
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Originally Posted by SteveLW
Originally Posted by MikeP
Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.

The emotional rollercoaster is real. I'd have days where I felt on top of the world. Next day I felt like the crud at the bottom of the swamp. The key is staying busy and GAL. Always be doing. Idle hands are the devil's playground.

Yeah, it's always when I'm at work that things go south. I'm busy but am basically alone most days except for the first and last 45 minutes. My mind starts wandering and I have to reel it back in.


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Originally Posted by Mach1
Originally Posted by MikeP
Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.

It's only sh!t if you let it be sh!t....

Don't let this define your moods...

Tell me something about yourself that you are proud of...

Nothing sitch related, or kid related....

Something about you....

I really have to think about that to give you an honest answer. I just don't know.


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MikeP #2939963 11/30/22 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by MikeP
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Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.

The emotional rollercoaster is real. I'd have days where I felt on top of the world. Next day I felt like the crud at the bottom of the swamp. The key is staying busy and GAL. Always be doing. Idle hands are the devil's playground.

Yeah, it's always when I'm at work that things go south. I'm busy but am basically alone most days except for the first and last 45 minutes. My mind starts wandering and I have to reel it back in.

I can relate. When I was in my situation I would be fine but as soon as I had a couple of free moments at work I'd start spiraling. You have to try to stay occupied. Easier said than done, unfortunately.


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MikeP,
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Feeling especially down this am. Tired of this sh!t. Gotta refocus.
Remember what I told you just yesterday...

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Great post. Sounds like it's starting to click with you. I completely agree with doubling down. 6 days isn't much in the scheme of things. There will be ups and downs...make sure you commit for the long haul.

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The emotional rollercoaster is real. I'd have days where I felt on top of the world. Next day I felt like the crud at the bottom of the swamp. The key is staying busy and GAL. Always be doing. Idle hands are the devil's playground.
SteveLW is right about the rollercoaster. The key is to 1) smooth out the ups and downs so the swings aren't as dramatic, and 2) make sure the overall trend is upward.


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Mike - use this time to really think about what your core values are - the values that mean the most to you, that define you. When I did that it became really clear what did and didn't fit in my world. It will help, I promise.


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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Mike - use this time to really think about what your core values are - the values that mean the most to you, that define you. When I did that it became really clear what did and didn't fit in my world. It will help, I promise.

I thought I had done that. My big issue now, I think, is being stuck in limbo. I understand she is having a hard time with whatever is going on in her head. I guess I'm not doing a good job of detaching. I get frustrated thinking she is still deciding between me and the OM. I sometimes think she will never to a point of wanting to reconcile without leaving again and seeing what it will be like without me. I think if she leaves again, I will be done. Seems like a no-win situation. I know I need to just keep on trucking like I have been the last week or so, guess I just needed to vent.


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