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bttrfly #2944719 04/02/23 03:11 PM
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Dunn,
A lot of vets have stopped coming here. This is not the same place it was back when I started coming here in 2015. Back then, disagreements were viewed as opportunities to grow. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I will speak for myself. There is nothing here for me any more. What was once a refuge and welcoming place is now something quite different. People don't necessarily stay where they aren't valued as anything more than a resource for newcomers.


You get out what you put in.
Put nothing in - get nothing out

And then there is the issue of paying it forward.
Most of the vets have paid more than their fair share of that.


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dunnm #2944720 04/02/23 03:16 PM
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2015, BD. D 2016.

It's now 2023.


Pretty sure I've paid it forward Cadet.

Do you see any other women posting here who aren't newcomers?

Be a bit more clear when you post please.


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bttrfly #2944722 04/02/23 03:21 PM
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
Pretty sure I've paid it forward Cadet.
Exactly what I just said
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Be a bit more clear when you post please.
This is my normal cryptic type of post.
I am not as eloquent as you are,
I am short and to the point.


I am much better with links.


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Cadet #2944723 04/02/23 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Cadet
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Pretty sure I've paid it forward Cadet.
Exactly what I just said
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Be a bit more clear when you post please.
This is my normal cryptic type of post.
I am not as eloquent as you are,
I am short and to the point.


I am much better with links.

You've said exactly that on a thread of mine in the past which is why it seems personal.


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bttrfly #2944724 04/02/23 03:34 PM
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Originally Posted by bttrfly
it seems personal.

Nope

The last I will say on his thread which is for dunnm


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dunnm #2944726 04/02/23 05:08 PM
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I thank you for all that you do but not fot merging my threads are these things really connected.
Rules will be rules.

Guess it highlights my appreciation for LH19

@bttrfly not for the first time (((B)))


@Boat 14, I have read every post you have made on this forum, thank you for your opinion!

dunnm #2944735 04/02/23 09:23 PM
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Originally Posted by dunnm
DnJ
I thank you for all that you do but not fot merging my threads are these things really connected.
Rules will be rules.

Guess it highlights my appreciation for LH19

@bttrfly not for the first time (((B)))


@Boat 14, I have read every post you have made on this forum, thank you for your opinion!
LH19 was one of the greatest of all time but apparently the powers that be felt otherwise. The show must go on or the board will no longer exist. Time to take the torch dunnm a run with it.

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Why, what happened to LH19? Did he get banned?

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https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2943712&page=1

Don't know if that will work, complete technophobe

But in answer to your question yes!

And we appear to have lost Ginger 1, Dawn, kml, DonH too, hmmm

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Originally Posted by dunnm
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2943712&page=1

Don't know if that will work, complete technophobe

But in answer to your question yes!

And we appear to have lost Ginger 1, Dawn, kml, DonH too, hmmm

Well I read the thread, and it’s super disappointing. I don’t know what’s worse, that one of the most valuable and active members is not contributing… or that mods flat out refused to acknowledge what went on, and locked the thread about his disappearance.

Like BL42, I’m a bit disheartened by it all.

Sometimes LH19 told some hard truths. And if he overstepped the mark, he apologised. Sounds like the sort of person we want around.

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