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Here is my new thread where I was best friends with Stbxw and now she is best friends with Om.


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All of it except telling your daughters thee truth. You have a file? Reports to the board? Why?

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Are you going this route because of advice on another forum? Just curious. Your plan is what they would recommend. Never understood it personally and never heard of a positive outcome.

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My stbxw is among other things, a marriage and divorce trauma counselor. Her current activity, in my mind, shows that she has impaired judgement in these areas. Consequently, her clients might not be getting the service they are entitled to. I.e malpractice.

A complaint to the board is just that, a complaint. If there is no basis then it’s disregarded. If it is sustained, then corrective action is taken.

I believe you have a file because if you tell om wife om is a cheater, she may not believe, but if you have evidence to back it up, she may.

You yourself said stbxw has probably cheated on me my whole marriage. Well, if someone had told me that before I got married, I hopefully would not be here.


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Nick a file for OMs W sounds a little psycho. Who cares if the om w believes you or not? There M really isn’t any of your business.

Just so you no my MC was divorced twice. I didn’t consider that malpractice I thought she was quite good.

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What route do you disapprove of? Informing an ethics board of possible ethical violations, or letting Om wife she know may be exposed to STDs?

As for outcomes, how could it get any worse? You either get divorced or you don’t. I am.


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Originally Posted by LH19
Nick a file for OMs W sounds a little psycho. Who cares if the om w believes you or not? There M really isn’t any of your business.

Just so you no my MC was divorced twice. I didn’t consider that malpractice I thought she was quite good.


Yes but in this state adultery is a misdemeanor. Criminal activity is required to be reported to the state. Stbxw didn’t do the honorable thing and get a divorce, she had an affair and blamed me completely for the disintegrating marriage. When I discovered the affair, she refused to move out and continued then affair in front of my daughters and me. Oh, and using my assets to further the affair.


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Both? Dude it [censored] but you need to take it like a man.

Do you think your W has STDs?

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Both? Dude it [censored] but you need to take it like a man.

Do you think your W has STDs?


Both what? Explain what take it like a man means?

If stbxw engages in illegal activity, why should she not bear the consequences? I’m not going to fabricate a case, but if something I report has merit, let it work through the system.

I found out from the journal my wife had multiple stds before we met. She didn’t know who she got them from or who she gave them to. So when I discovered Om, I was tested (negative)

Should the one in a million reconciliation occur, a testing would be necessary.


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