Very true about the differences in dating with/without kids. I do notice how much more I actually appreciate the alone time though post kids. I donít take time spent for granted - Watching tv is rare as we just want to interact more. So some benefits too.
Now that the Doc has her son full time moments with no kids are becoming very rare.
Tonight is the night we are going to watch the USA woman's team play. My daughters are so jacked up! They are a little disappointed that Alex Morgan isn't playing but it will still be a good time. I am taking some personal time this afternoon so I can pick them up immediately after school is out so we can get to the game early and have them take it all in.
My x MIL and FIL will be in town this weekend. I don't miss their visits at all. I saw the XW yesterday and she commented how she wasn't looking forward to their visit either. They are real nut jobs but my XW could never cut them out of her life. I feel really bad for her but they are not good people. She told me she was not going to let our daughters be alone with them. I'm glad she is still sticking to some of the things we spoke about when we were married.
Spring Break is next week so I am still trying to plan some fun things for me and the girls. I will also have the Doc's son so it should be a good week.
Itís probably also a good time to check myself as well. I have had the docs son all week as it is spring break. I am off on vacation and thought he could just hang with us so she wouldnít have to pay anyone. Maybe it has been too much for my girls as they both broke down and started crying. They said they donít want to leave our house and they donít want me and the doc to get married and why canít me and their mom give it another shot. I didnít get into the details of me and their mom but I just told them that me and their mom love them both very much but that we were not getting back together again. My 10 yr old started to probe a little deeper however I just told her that mommy and daddy just couldnít be happy together. I still think she is too young for all the details.
It seems whenever they get tired, as they were last night, they become more emotional over things. Anyway, just a reminder of how slow the pace needs to be. Obviously my girls arenít ready.
Hey man Iím sorry to hear about your update. My kids are a older but more reasons for me to believe I will never marry again. Sounds like you will have some tough decisions to make in the future. Again Iím sorry.
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ďDon't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you and stay.Ē- Will Smith
I am certainly not pressing the pedal but itís clear they need more time which is fine by me as I am in no rush. I also know it has nothing to do with the doc and they would feel this way about anyone.
I also know the doc would completely understand and be supportive of my daughters as well not wanting to push the issue herself.
And it's been almost 3 years for me since the xw moved out and my kids still think this way. I cant imagine 2hat the kids think when they see their parents immediately with someone else like what a lot of guys do over in newcomers.