~J~ Last night I dropped H off at the ap. We're civil. Proceeding as planned. I had him sign the vehicle I drive over to me. I know where he's going & will be (for the most part) until he's back at work. He has to come back here for something in March,. We'll figure out visits with D3.
MIL wants to move here! Not a surprise. She's here for another week & says she wants to come back after she does her dr's appts.
As for me, at bedtime, I had to comfort a very emotional D3. She said bye to Daddy. He'd prepped her for days that he was going. (Not sure what he said. I say traveling, & then work). She was awake when he left, but wanted him back to tuck her in. It was really hard. She's so smart, articulate & full of emotions. I knew she'd have a harder transition at this age, even if our sitch was different. I'll have to do the same next week with MIL too. Oh my girl.
That's all for now.
Taking a break from the boards. I'll update once in a while.
Thank you all for the tremendous support.
((((((HUgs))))))
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Before MIL moves to live near (or with?) you, I would tell her about H's infidelity. It's great that you get along with her and she could be an enormous help with your daughter, but that's a big life change for her to make and it could be complicated if she doesn't know the whole truth. Imagine, for example, she sacrifices to move near you. You then start dating a new guy and she gets her nose out of joint because you have moved on too soon - but she doesn't know that the REASON you've moved on is that her son cheated on you.
It may also damage her relationship with her son if she so pointedly sides with you in the divorce. That's fine if she is ready for that, but she really should have all the information to make an informed choice before making such a big life change. Also, you need to think how comfortable will you be dating with her around? Will she be a conduit of information back to your ex that you would rather not have?
Also - how old is MIL? If her health starts to fail and she's with you, will it fall to you to care for her in her old age? Is that a commitment you are willing to take on?
I do hope that you are still reading the postings to you. It's okay if you are taking a break from the forum, but please re-read what kml posted to you.
Wishing you all of the best and the door is always open here for you to return and post.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
Also - how old is MIL? If her health starts to fail and she's with you, will it fall to you to care for her in her old age? Is that a commitment you are willing to take on?
She's on the young side. I can't think that far ahead either.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
