Just let kim know how much you love him and none of that is his fault in any shape or form. Kids need to hear that often.
I have been doing that and I think its best that I live in the house and I know that him being in his home will help as well. It will at least offer some comfort to being where he is familiar.
Sending you and your boys a big hug. Show those kids the road of dignity and respect.
Stay strong P!
Thanks Neffer, I will try my best. Time and space will do me some good. My boys mean everything to me. Maybe part of the lesson is that I know I will be a better father going forward. Much better than my father was after my parents divorce.
She text me yesterday wanting me to plan a trip for us? I never answered the question. Not sure what she was looking for in that statement. I read a quote on here that said the title of a book for understanding WW’s was. (. ) because there is no understanding them. Lol
I agree with this totally. Still fearing my loss to some degree and temp checking. No I didn't respond. Been trying to communicate about son and his ballgames. She will message things like "good Luck" before my ballgames and that is about it. She will text when I leave the house without speaking. I just tell her I was in a hurry and running late for work which I was. I think a lot of temp checks going on here.
I allowed her to speak and validated the other night but it was primarily due to her talking about the papers for divorce. I think at this point I need to continue to "let her go". GAL and do 180's like crazy.
I have a serious question. Was your W ever normal?
Normal? I think everyone has the potential to be a little crazy. She was very jealous and extremely attached early in our relationship and marriage. After my infidelity 17 years ago she somewhat became less attached. She has said that she doesn't think she ever fully forgave me. She is very smart and graduated salutatorian in her high school. AS far as normal goes this affair has thrown her into trying to be a teenager again. Sooner or later she will realize what she has lost and what she has done. It may be too late by then.
