That FB thing - I'm not sure how deactivating an account makes you look single. That would be a strange consequence of simply going 'quiet' on FB for a while. So I'm not convinced by that.
You were pleasant and not aggressive on the phone; that is a positive thing for you. Don't worry too much about how he views that, though I understand it's really hard to not over-analyse everything they say/type to you. Jsut distract yourself with something.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
Boundaries are hard. You get these reactions that make you feel guilty and manipulated. It's so hard. It sounds easy writing it down here, but it's really really really hard.
I hope you understand your feelings are extremely common and normal.
It really is very uncomfortable, especially because it's new for me. I did have my IC today and it was torture to start with a new person --2 hours of her listening to the history. -___-
She did say that she thought my H was manipulative and that without meeting him she thinks that he is done with the marriage....
It was a little discouraging, but I know that if/when things turn around, I won't be taking back the same person he is now. We will both have grown a lot! For now I'm just going to focus on me.
I wanted to respond earlier, but not only was the FB status change a lie, it was a completely ridiculous lie.
It's his way of being conflict avoidant. Say a little white lie, then go on with your day acting like nobody's feelings are hurt. It's his way of not feeling bad about the fact he changed his status. Immature.
I’m really a fan of owning your sh!+... he’s not doing that. I know he doesn’t like conflict because he grew up in an abusive situation, but what he does is just as bad.
We just got news today that our S has a syndrome. It explains why he’s had issues with other symptoms over his life. I told H the update and he said he was happy.
I told him I was glad he was happy...
Then he wrote something else back saying that he’s glad he can get the proper care. I didn’t respond.
Every day that goes by I think detachment seems easier.
I definitely feel stronger and my GAL has been working. I have lost a few pounds and I'm feeling stronger for sure.
I am becoming a better mother as well.
I did get an appt with my L to respond to the no fault D. He's going to have the case moved to my county so I wouldn't have to drive 3 hours to go to court if needed.
I'm really annoyed that I'm already $1K into this and that H's lack of communication wasted both of us time and money. It's BS, but since he lied about the FB status thing, I really don't trust him to do the right thing. He only looks out for #1....
Since he's not honest, the only way to go forward to protect me and the kids is to deal with this through Lawyers...
I had a good weekend with the kiddos. School starts tomorrow! I’m really thankful for a more strict routine.
I feel less depressed everyday. I did exercise this weekend and felt strong after. It was interesting because I left my wallet at work so we had to get a little creative. It was still fun and we had a box of food delivered for us to cook, so that worked out.
Kids did talk to H today for a bit. He and I were texting back and forth a little about school starting tomorrow. I sent him a pic of both kids outfit and told him they were in bed. He said they were nice and then hit me with -when are we going to discuss the settlement, you’ve been putting it off.
I handled it well. I told him I was sorry that it wasn’t the case but priorities have shifted due to our sons medical needs right now. I also told him I didn’t like to discuss matters before bed because my sleep is terrible to begin with and told him thanks for understanding.
OMG! His list of responsibilities it 2 lines long, mine is like 100 ....
I also sent him that paperwork in April and I’m the one putting it off. -____-
