What to Do? 8

[SteveLW]

Never mind, you can ignore most of my last post.

[chris19]

Well. Failed attempt at DB'ing.

Court Date is June 19th.

At least I am more prepared, and soo much better off than I was during the beginning of all this. I have built my like back up.

[chris19]

And then she had the b4llS to text me: "that was one of the hardest things I've ever done"

[TBSakaJ9]

Sorry to hear Chris. Hopefully you feel a sense of relief and peace. So did she get the papers from work or did you see her in person? How did you get a court date so soon?

[chris19]

No i did not see her. My office mail was able to get to her office same day. She filed dissolution, so it might be different than a divorce....Really not sure.

[chris19]

She said, I dont know if you care or not, but I thought I would let you know. I cried in the lobby.

[artista]

I knew her signature would be missing... I kinda doubt she is going to sign without asking again if this is what you want... I feel bad for you because you haven't gotten back to the strength you had before the dividing of the gifts. And think about that... She cheated on you before you two could even begin using your wedding gifts...

[chris19]

She just texted:

I dont know how hard or easy this is on u but if u could share your feelings, i would really appreciate it because again, i have some things i would like to say to you.

[chris19]

part of me wants to just lay into her...but that will get me nowhere in life.

[EastTN]

She said, I dont know if you care or not, but I thought I would let you know. I cried in the lobby.

I got that from my XW too. She went to my L s office to sign our agreed divorce and parenting plan. She called me about three times while she was there (I was at a C appointment she knew I had) and sent a nasty don t have time for me while I m going through this text because I didn t answer my phone. When I called her back I got a spiel (which she later posted to Facebook) about how she was crying her eyes out and the receptionist and paralegal were so worried about her because of how bad she was. It was, of course, a total fabrication. The paralegal later told me that she d never seen a mother so calm and cold signing a parenting plan that made the husband the primary residential parent.

Remember the advice don t believe anything you hear and only half of what you see? That applies here. And no, laying into her will do you no good. Not with your healing, not with your detachment, not with your DBing.. it s not worth it. You ll feel better for ten minutes and then feel worse for ten days.