But toddler runs in, looks at h and runs off upstairs. H didn't even say hello to him. Kind of confirms to me this anger and funk he is in, is nothing specifically to do with me
Hi Cherry,
This is good to recognize, as it can help us not take everything they do or don't do so personally. The fog is far reaching for them, because they are in an emotional self protection mode. It's hard to have bad emotions running through at the same time as good one's. So while it still stings, we can keep our focus and know that at some point they will come out. We just need to stay focused on doing what is right and hold on to hope in the difficult moments. That is what will help us heal and keep us strong. Share some extra love with the little ones, it helps them and it helps us.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
It's the evening so I guess thinking time starts as per. I'm still holding onto hope I guess, I just feel like he's going to say he's tried at this before after his a and it didn't work. But then I guess on the flipside I need him to see that he can't live life without me.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Hi Cherry. Sorry you're in the sitch you find yourself. I've found that being thankful helps me tremendously. I have a D3 and when I start to get down, I think of how grateful I am to have her in my life and if my M continues to proceed towards D, I will still walk away with D3 in my life. Her hugs and "I love you Daddy" make all the difference some days.
Keep at it. Wish you the best. Vaya con dios.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
They really do. Last time round baby was 9 months old, so this time in a sense it's easier to have a slightly older child. They keep you so busy, and somehow sense the best time to run up to you to give you a hug. I find I have to stay strong just for the sake of the little one
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Kids help a lot. My W has kept 2 of the 5 and we are going through D. I feel most comfortable when I am around my boys.
Focus on your baby!
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
That little one will help keep you strong too. So sorry things are tough right now, but you are doing a good job hanging in there. Keep up the good work.
Thanks guys, I feel a bit all over but strength and patience. This is always a long road. And there's no quick fixes. My biggest blessing is my child. I'd love h to complete the family. But that is out of my control
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Your H sounds really angry and seems like he's back in the fog again?
It's good that you have no expectations and you didn't snipe back at him. At the same time, please take care of yourself and kid, physically, emotionally, as well as financially and legally.
Rooting for you!
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Btw, have you tried words of affirmation with your H? I have a feeling that this is probably top of the list for most males, and this need is also tied to the need for respect.
Have you tried thanking him for things he's done or showing admiration for how he has been scoring his promotions?
Just a thought.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
I had been trying to , not really had the chance to commend him on anything good he's done. He seems very angry, most of the time looks miserable. But occasionally will tune in and out and be happy with his mom and kid. Though this is what he would be like the last time to. I'm hoping and praying as I begin to pull myself away he is going to pull closer
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
