Just a little update, but nothing has really change other than my STBXW is in a pretty serious R with OM2. Our D will be final sometime in August, but i continue to be the best i can be, and detach. It gets better with each passing day, but i still think of her everyday too.
I often think to myself what if my STBXW were to do a full 180, and want to work on the marriage? Tell me all the right things like being remorseful, totally committed to working on marriage ect..what would i do? I think i would want to, but how the heck do you trust someone like this again?
I don't think i really have to worry about my question anyways because if you have a WW that was in an A then moved on to OM2, and is now in a R with this OM2 then the love that WW once had for H is totally gone?
My best advice is stay focused on you and the best you you will be. That way regardless of ifshe does the 180 or does not, you will be good.
I know the challenge for us LBS's is that we desperately want to detach because of the emotional pain, and even when we think we have, we start to think of the "what if's". Doing so is simply torturing ourselves and we should accept that the thoughts pop in to our minds, recognize the thought, and then let it pass.
Then we can go back to focusing on making ourselves better people, better parents, and a confident independent best us ever.
Just MHO, and I share this with you as I work to make the same thoughts fully integrated into my own mental thought process.
Have a great day.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
