Just stay positive hun. Things are looking up... just keep praying and keep doing what your doing. I'm so happy for you. Positive vibes are sent your way!!!
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Welcome back, was hoping your M had resolved and am sad it didn't.
Your WH is really wayward. No doubt moving on and on and on and on......
It would not surprise me if the new OW doesn't know the truth, later OW get lied to as well. The first one is usually a down A, then these waywards look for better prospects. That is normally the measure of it and OW SPOUSES get sacked in before they know the real inside story.
Glam sis ex went for a slapper, they had a child and even got M, pretty step sis to clever nephew. The Ex is now slapping again. Step sis is lost, for her son's (my clever nephew) sake Glam sis now has this pretty step sis living with her sometimes. The pretty step sis is really lost and damaged with two difficult parents, one a slapper and the other a dipper. Her fab gran died six or seven years ago, so all she has is her half bruv.
Kids like yours can thrive with one great parent, and of course a fab gran. Just like clever nephew is a high achiever.
I think for the sake of the kids boundaries need laying down. It's time possibly not to get angry about this incident, as you will probably get "I wasn't feeling well" or I was there". Sounds like the kids need some boundaries too, they seem to be going rogue around WH.
Boundaries all around, for WH and the kids.
Have you documented for the L?
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 11/14/1503:54 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Hi V, You hit the nail right on abut the new ow not knowing the truth. She doesn't know he cheated on his wife, she thinks our divorce has finalized. She know of the ex gf but doesn't know the whole truth. Tonight I heard the same advice it's better to have one sain paren't then two crazy ones. Yes lots of boundaries have been established already. I just need him fully gone! We don't have any L involved it's all agreements...
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Time to put your foot down in a firm, decisive way. Either pack up his stuff for him and put it in the garage or something, or tell him to show up, pack it up, and get it out of your house. You have no reason to store his stuff. Be businesslike.
I want to wring his worthless neck...but what would that solve? I'm currently on a WAS hatred tour. Don't have many fond thoughts for the lot of them! Selfish jerks.
Being together for 12 yrs not once did he ever want to go to church with me. Today he took ow to church. I'm so upset and jealous about this it's killing me...
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
I know. Hardest thing, ever. Your H is beyond reach. I'm not sure if HE even understands himself. I know you won't be able to make sense of him. The only way you're going to remain sane is to let him go. Not your problem. I'm not sure how else to help you, hon. I can offer sympathy and support - which I do, freely. But your H is wayward, thus no sense can be made of his actions.
Just take a deep breath and surrender him to God. Just love yourself and your babies. I'm so sorry.
