Ok, so knowing I'm not going to discuss legal matters with her, how can/should I interact? Does anything change? Should I continue treating her as a neighbor, validating where it makes sense, being a great dad and GAL?
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
Also told the attorney she is having an affair, but in no fault state of KS, that will have no baring. Did tell my attorney I didn't want a divorce and want to drag it out, which is what they are looking to do. Said even though KS moves fast, could be 6-9 months down the road. Hopefully enough time.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
Look..your W pulled out the "rape" accusation and you want want to be nice & validating??! Let's get real here.
I want to reiterate that you need to lay LOW and make yourself scarce with W. Focus on kids, do activities with them, and go to bed when they do. You can read a book in your bedroom.
I reviewed your thread and did a timeline of your interactions with W that I think you need to share with your L tomorrow so she can get a better sense of events that has taken place over the past week. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
April 23: W requested that you work with her L on separation/D paperwork. You decline politely and wanted to have your own L.
W tells you on April 21st that she filed on Monday, April 20th. It is during this same convo that W admits to her A with the OM.
April 26: You gave W the "no OM, not willing to live in an open M" speech which was disrespectful to you and that you would not be friends with her as long as she continues with her A.
You also tell her that you don't want a D, but won't stand in her way. It is then that W reminds you to pick up the paperwork from her L.
You unfriend W on FB. You tell W that you can't be FB friends or friends with her while she's in an A.
April 27: W's L served you with D papers.
You tell W that you have plans this Wednesday (I am assuming tomorrow) and that you won't be back until after work. W gets really angry.
Later on, W went to your room and apologized for getting angry with you. You two apparently smoothed things over.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Are the ^^ sequence of events accurate when it comes to dates?
You mentioned a while ago about May 8th being a trigger emotionally as it was when you and W renewed your vows. It is now one week away from May 8th.
I do not think that W filing the "rape" charges is coincidence considering that she's probably not happy with hearing your no OM boundary and seeing you taking steps to protect yourself and the family from the OM.
You must tell your L all of this so she's aware of this timetable of events.
Also do not forget the fact that W has lived with you since the so-called "rape" incident without filing charges or acting fearful of you for the past 5 months since BD.
Wonka - that was me speculating. I don't know if she did that. I won't know until tomorrow. My l now thinks she didn't because if she did there should be a protection order or restraining order and there is not.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
Timelines are faily accurate. She went to the attorney 4/18, filed 4/20 - was signed by a judge 4/21 and then the separate order was 4/22. These recent events all happened AFTER she did these filing, so they didn't have an impact on it.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
Wonka - that was me speculating. I don't know if she did that. I won't know until tomorrow. My l now thinks she didn't because if she did there should be a protection order or restraining order and there is not.
Speculating? So did she or didn't she accuse you?
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
