wife during deployment EA/PA continued.

[RysinMn]

i am shopping for some charcoal grey sheets as we speak. i would love to paint but im leaving in a few months so pointless but i can put some stuff up. you guys are great for the support. Oh and tomorrow i am making rack of lamb with curry sauce and sauteed mushrooms. gonna be a good one. never done curry sauce before will be an adventure.

[dingo]

I like the martini glasses idea.

Next time though, actually have a friend over (not saying it has to be a woman) and make/drink martinis. Staging is great. I did it a ton. But don't forget to do. Be authentic. You'll feel much better and it will do even more for your PMA.

Edit: Im coming over for dinner tomorrow.

[Starsky309]

Can you paint the walls where you live? Is it rented or your own place? Painting the bedroom walls, as Starsky suggested: Also genius. I love ALL of this. (Like, I'm over here, rubbing my hands together and wearing an evil grin ... not because I'm evil; I'm actually more like Cupid. But you DO know - don't you? - that Cupid dipped his arrows in sweet, delicious honey before ZAPPING unsuspecting lovers with the razor-sharp, pointed ends of said arrows, right? Honey and darts, baby. Honey and darts. You've got this, brother. Muahahahahaha.)

[RysinMn]

I do for sure, I got a friend coming over today. We are gonna play guitars a bit and have a few drinks.

Today-so I woke up really missing W this morning. Seems I've been dreaming about her and the sitch allot lately. Even when she is not in them, they are related to our sitch. I don't like the way it makes me feel when I wake up. Any ideas on how to lessen the dreams. Anyone had these issues and found some coping mechanisms that help maybe right before bed.

[RysinMn]

Update- I am feeling really resentful today everyone. I thought I was moving past anger but I guess I'm not. I am hurt, angry and just in disbelief that W would throw away what we had for the past 7 years for someone she only knew 2 months. Especially with our history and the memories we have made. We were inseparable for 7 years such amazing years. Now it's all just gone in the blink of an eye just gone. I am a blip on her screen just passing by. That is how I feel right now. and I'm at a lose how to overcome this. I know I'm staying strong, but at what price. I know her and I know she likes to be chased. But I am her husband I should not have to chase her. She needs to realize what she is losing. But how does that happen when we never talk or see one another. Sorry for the rant just a vulnerable day I guess. Thanks again everyone.

[Complex]

Thought about that the drinks don't help? Especially the next day. It's called a hangover even if you didn't get hammered, but it's affecting your mood if you are depressed anyway. Alcohol is a depressant.
I'm trying to stay away from alcohol right now. I drank a few times and ended up like you the next day every single time..

[RysinMn]

But I didn't drink yesterday. So I don't know!

[Train]

Rysin,

If you weren't feeling the "downs," you wouldn't be human. Just don't keep yourself there long, okay? Have patience with yourself.

This journey - like most others - is about progress, not perfection. You are growing stronger every day, even if it doesn't feel that way at times.

When you're down, those are the times that you REALLY need to force - FORCE - yourself to GAL. Go for a run. Call a friend to get together. I promise you'll be glad you did.

Marathons are long and hard.

Hang in there, soldier.

[RysinMn]

Ok so wife sent a message saying she wants to spend a few hours with the dogs tomorrow. Should I ok this or tell her it's not a good time. What do you think train?

[twinmom]

Personally I would say ok but I have plans at x time so please wrap up your visit by such time..... My suggestion....
Invite a friend over for dinner/lunch/dessert and be preparing the meal while wife is there. Already be showered and wearing new cologne.....looking really good. Bottle of wine in a bucket of ice.... house spotless and bed made.