WAW and Mother's Day

[OneDay]

My boys want to do special for Mom on Mothers Day and this will be the first time I was not there to help them out. They are at the age where they still need some help and my youngest keeps asking me if I will come over to them help make breakfast in bed. So I was thinking of picking them up Friday and taking them to the store to get a microwave breakfast meal(so "they" can make a breakfast for her) then going to the dollar store so they could pick out gift for her.

Everything in my heart is telling me this is the right thing to do, but what are your guys thought on this?

Lastly, is anyone else getting their WAW a Mothers Day card. I know this might seem petty to some, but I am at a loss and would love some advise.

[artsy]

Absolutely help your children make her something. That's a great memory for them, and it's the right thing to do (IMO).

If you want to get her a card, I would say to do it: but have no expectations as to her reaction.

[melissag]

I would help the children put together something special for Mother's Day, but leave it at that. I am not too familiar with your sitch . . . but if you do something for your W, that may come across as pursuing. Not sure if you are in a place where that is going to do more harm than good.

[gogofo]

Has your W mentioned one way or another about your actions on Mother's Day? If she doesn't want anything from you then honor her request and only help your kids. If she has not mentioned anything you may get her a card if you feel like it would be appropriate with your current situation.

I would avoid anything about your feelings towards her and just focus on her as a mother, not a wife. Definitely avoid any "I love you" stuff as this would be forcing your feelings on your wife. This is delicate stuff and hard to figure out; I often think there is not a right answer. Try to keep the card as neighborly as possible. Maybe a card and message that would be appropriate for a coworker or sister.

[OneDay]

Thanks guys. I already told the boys I would help them out and show them how to do everything beforehand. They are soooo excited, which makes me happy (but sad at the same time)

At this point, I dont believe anything I do is going to Help or Hurt my sitch.

[sandi2]

You aren't going over there to fix her breakfast, are you?

[OneDay]

You aren't going over there to fix her breakfast, are you?

NO WAY. I dont think Im even going to get her a card.

I am however taking the boys to the store today after work so they can get her a microwaveable breakfast meal, I figured they can handle that, and they are sooo excited to to it. Also, going to hit the dollar store with them and help them get everything wraped so they are all set on mothers day.

When they first asked me about helping them make mom breakfast, I told them maybe the could fix Mom a bowl of cereal. Haha They didn't like that idea very much.