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#2441106 03/26/14 07:50 PM
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Today my father is dying. His body is no longer able to handle dialysis so it has been taking it's toll on him. He was admitted into a Hospice facility on Monday morning. We thought he might be able to hang on for about 10 days but the toxins in his system are proving to much. I should be there by his side holding his hand, personally telling him how much he will be missed and thanking him for everything he has done for me in this life, but I'm unable to because of the a$$hole pervert from New York. I have to be here a thousand miles away in order to attend a preliminary hearing tomorrow morning that my 15 year old daughter has been subpeona'd to attend and testify. The pervert will be in the courtroom as well and there is no way in hell I could let my daughter be there without my presence. The cost of this is missing the opportunity to see my dad one last time.

This has been the hardest decision I've ever had to make but in my heart it feels like the right one and the one my dad would want me to make. I just hate it.

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So very sorry for the position you find yourself in.

If you are anything like your father and I believe you are he understands you are supporting your daughter.

Firm your resolve and get there when you can.


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BA im so sorry that you have to choose. I think you are making the right choice. I agree that dad would approve. I have been where u are. And im about to be there again. Not easy


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What a difficult choice. I am sure your dad is aware that you have been keeping in contact to see how he is doing. Being there for your daughter has to take top priority for now. How many days do they think this will take? If it becomes dire, I would notify the court and see about getting a postponement.

Best wishes for you and your family. Blessings.

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kat727 #2441209 03/27/14 02:26 AM
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I'm so sorry BA. Such difficult decisions but I'm sure your Dad would say "take care of your daughter" because that's what he would have done in your place. My prayers are with you and your family.


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Only you can decide what to do but sorry - I have to say that it is a preliminary hearing & probably little would happen. Your ex should be there for your daughter to free you up to be with your dad. I urge you to go be with him - I doubt you will regret it.

My heart goes out to you at this most difficult time

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Hey BA, you and your dad are in my prayers. You've made the choice you must make, and now make the best of it. See if you can skype or facetime with your dad until you can get back. Say what you need to say by phone. I'm sending you encouragement for the strength to handle supporting your daughter and attending to your dad.

I think the idea of delaying the hearings is valid too, in case you find it possible.


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BA,

I'm with others in sending you prayers as you face two tough life situations simultaneously. (((BA)))

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BA,

Thinking of you, my friend. Hope you've been able to find your center through all the turmoil.

Hugs,

Bets


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I hope you are with your Dad right now. Don't leave anything unsaid. You deserve that peace and so does he.

I hope things move quickly with your daughters case. They need to teach that piece of scum a lesson he will never forget.

Hugs and blessings. Kat


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