Aaron, post in this forum, you'll get more responses here. You may want to change forums later, but this is a good place to start.
This is not a forum filled with armchair counselors, we have been through the fire (or are still in it). Many of us come here feeling alone and hopeless, but you'll find you are NOT alone in this, and you'll also find that there IS reason to hope. So post more details about your sitch. Also read DR if you haven't already, and read Sandi2's 37 Rules too. Good luck!
Me: 58 w/ S16, D22, D25 Current R: 4 years Previous M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:56