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peaceSJ #2380946 08/30/13 04:04 PM
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Sorry Hurt...this is a crappy situation.

I suggest re-reading the section in DR about when your spouse is having an affair....good to brush up on that. Also consider "Love Must be Tough." Take care of you first.


M:44 W:42
M:15
S:19, D:16, S:14, D:12, S:6
BD: 2/14/11
D Final: 6/25/13
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Peace, don't beat yourself up about it, we all make mistakes smile We're only human and occasionally we don't follow 180 as we thing we know bast smile
I agree breakdown smile Hope you have a better weekend Hurt smile


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S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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TryingToD180, thank you for your response and support. Sometimes I am confused by my H. He wants to buy new furunitures and decorates our house. I don't know if I should agree with him or not.

Hope all of you have a nice weekend too...


M 18 yrs
5 & 7 yrs old kids
H DB in 4/2013
H moved out in 11/2013
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Peace have you got a thread of your own I can visit? I thought I had already visited your thread but I'm not sure smile Anyway Peace, I would let your H decorate your home and buy new furniture but make sure it's to your taste. If he did move out then at least you'll have a nice decorated home smile


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2/4/13 H moves out
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Thank you again 180 for your comments. I'm not quite sure how this forum works. But I think I have my own thread

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...684#Post2380684


M 18 yrs
5 & 7 yrs old kids
H DB in 4/2013
H moved out in 11/2013
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Thanks Peace, I'll pop over there now smile


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11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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Nothing earth-shattering to report from this weekend (W stayed out Friday night, we met for dinner Saturday and Sunday and yesterday we went to a BBQ. Afterwards we argued a little.)

Needless to say I need to do something different. Even though I really don't have the extra cash laying around, I just signed up for 3 coaching sessions. I'm hoping to schedule my first session later today. Very nervous about it and what's ahead but I need to do something differently.


M: 29
W: 29
T: 12 years
M: 4 years
Discovered OM: 02/10/12
ILYBNILWY: 03/01/12
W Moves Out: 05/04/12
Reconciliation Starts: 09/06/12
In-house Separation (Again): 03/09/13
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That's great news hurt smile I wish I could afford coaching sessions, the feedback I get from them is amazing! Hope they go well for you smile Don't be nervous about it, they're there to help you and they've helped thousands of people before you smile


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I think you, or she, needs to move out for a while. Your proximity to her behavior is hurting you more than you realize.


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M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015
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I agree Accuray smile It must be really hard living with someone who doesn't want to be with you anymore frown


H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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