Been awhile..

[cbtdad]

Simple. Don't respond.
Give it more time

[AnotherStander]

I don't even want respond. Looking for advice on how to handle it.

I'm not sure why you're asking, but I suspect that you really do want to respond. It's OK if you do, you can be honest with us. You can want to respond while choosing not to, that's a lot different than saying you don't want to respond.

Some people think reality may be finally setting in for her. Don't know.

They're totally mind-reading. I wouldn't pay any attention to talk like that. You NEVER know what's going on inside the head of a WAS because they don't know either. The only thing you can be certain of is whether or not it shows on the outside, she IS confused and in turmoil. You will see a lot of conflicting signals from her. Just stick to your DB'ing, none of it means anything unless she approaches you to express hope for reconciliation.

[Jeack]

AS,

Yeah your right I do wanna respond, but I've finally got my anxiety under control and as long as she's with the OM I really don't have much to say. I can't even really bring myself to talk to her as a neighbor because there's feelings still there. So I guess I'm going with the old saying that if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.

If she asked me a actually question then I'd consider responding. But there's no sense in responding to statements.

[Jeack]

C,

Thanks for the advice. Glad to see things r going good for you.

[Jeack]

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[Jeack]

So i'm about at the end of my rope with the STBXW. She's promised for the past 3 weeks that our property settlement agreement would be done. She seems to be dragging her feet. I just want this all behind me and in the past. Worst thing is everytime I send her a text msg regarding the D she post a picture on FB with her and OM at first I thought maybe coincidence but not 4 x's in a row. Ready to blow my lid. So I figured i'd come here to vent. And every time I call the L it's 80 bucks.

[Jeack]

So it's been a few moths figured i'd check in. Just signed my final D this past friday. Also just recently found out that my W is pregnant to her new BF, Guess it's kind of bittersweet since she was making no changes on R. Well just wanted to wish everyone good luck on there journeys and thank all who have helped me be a better stronger person out of this whether i got my M back or not i'm a better person today!!!

[AnotherStander]

Good to see you stop by, hope you're doing well! Wow, that had to be ugly to find out XW is pregnant with OM. Thankfully that's news I'll never have to hear since my W is menopausal, LOL! I wish you the best in your new life!

[Jeack]

Thanks AS, Yeah it was a tuff one to chew. But in the end made reality of the situation a lot more clearer. Thanks for all your words of wisdom you were a big help to me. I'm sure i'll be back to pop in and see how everyone is doing.