Quote: I'd be happier about it if it were not an after thought...he tells son every day that he loves him..maybe he just felt bad because after all he was talking to me about the interaction with son over the ily statement. but then I know he doesn't want to say it all the time because when he did (pre crap) it started to get stale..
GENDER GAP!
Don't expect your man to talk to you like a woman! "DB"
Unless you're married to POE!
T ny
PS: Went shopping this morning, want to hear about it?
Oh lucky you...so you're the "easter girl" in your family too, huh?
It can't help but cull up negative memories if your H dropped the bomb right after the event last year! Ugh!
Well let me put it this way LL, I'm not expecting too much in "that" regard from our getaway....still, no offense, but I'd really rather not be left to my own devices thinking..."Just like LL, I shaved my damned legs for nothing!"
Your book group sounds like fun. My h is driving in for the weekend. I'm rather nervous as this will be his first weekend in since we discovered XOW's H has filed for divorce and left her. Oh well we have really connected alot and I think we will be okay. I don't want to be clingy or wimpy. Rather be strong and secure. Anyway have fun being the Easter Bunny. Don't think about what happened last year. We have our spouses LL, they are with us! Time & Laughter will heal the wounds.
Kip
"Those who don't read, have no
advantage over those who can't"
Mark Twain
Hiya LL...just checking up on things here...seems I cant even find MY old threads ???? What gives. Anyways, I am not actually in the mood to post anything of importance, just wanted to say HI! since I haven't been around in months!! Things here are well. I am now pretty positive that things are over between my wife and I BUT, I am doing great...had a special friend for a while...didn't work out (I do after all have my daughter...and not everyone is ready and willing to accept the "insatnt family" that comes with that) no harm done, we were honest open and it was good while it lasted! I still see my wife (soon to be EX) quite often...with our daughter..and I have to credit Michele...we ARE actually VERy good friends now...and in the situation, it is was is best for our daughter!
I am living life, loving it, I am happy, I make myself happy and that is all due to Michele's books and this BB.
Glad to see all is going well here, Keep up the good work!
as much as all the was who do come here and post get tired of hearing the lbs whine and complain...I am so sick of listening to the was complain about such trivial things..by all acounts in listening to what their gripes are all about I myself should have been the one to have an a..I am the one who should have left..so what is it then...these waw's are just little girls who don't know crap about real love and marriage...or am I just an ignorant woman who's dedicated to her family and h???
just pissing and moaning yet again.
I am glad that I wasn't a waw..I am glad that I know better..I am glad I didn't have an a..even though according to all the different justifications I hear (read) from the waw's I should have been...I'm glad that I've been committed to my m..even when I wasn't thrilled...I'm glad that I'm strong and realize what love and marriage and committment and family are all about..
I wish I didn't get so angry when I read storied from the waw...I wish I could find words to tell them I do understand how they feel...but that those feelings can be overcome...you may not have been happy but your spouse does want to learn how to make you happy NOW...and so what if it is NOW...would you be happier if they never wanted to?? or are you pissed now because now you know that you were wrong...you weren't justified in your actions of having an a...and leaving or asking them to leave...why wouldn't you want to give it another chance...does it suck that it took for you to walk for them to get it?? ya...but you should be happy that they get it.
this post is not intended for anyone specifically....I'm just tired of hearing waw's whine and complain...he said this...he said that...he did this...he didn't do that....arggg!!!! if your lbs were as selfish and petty as you are...they wouldn't want to try...they'd look at you having your a's and pushing them out of their homes away fromt their children and tell you to go screw yourself and thank you for no longer having to try to please you cause obviously it aint possible...you need some dillusion for that.
I'm just tired of hearing waw's whine and complain...he said this...he said that...he did this...he didn't do that....arggg!!!! if your lbs were as selfish and petty as you are...they wouldn't want to try...they'd look at you having your a's and pushing them out of their homes away fromt their children and tell you to go screw yourself and thank you for no longer having to try to please you cause obviously it aint possible...you need some dillusion for that.
Shame on you, LL, not very good DB'ing, but thanks for givin' 'em hell Unfortunately, I can't say that to WAW or that would kill ANY chance!
You've been kind of quit this weekend, I hope that's a good sign!
Quote: You've been kind of quit this weekend, I hope that's a good sign!
it is!! it is during the week while h is at work that I get to feeling down..and petty and selfish as I accuse the waw's of doing...
you know what's funny...I was never a good dbr...yes for a few weeks during seperation I'd smile and be nice..no r talk..la di da all is well...thank you...but there were also plenty of times that I let h know exactly what I thought about what he was doing..the example of being a quitter that he was setting up for his children...the fact that he was foolishly throwing away family for some selfish ill woman who would surley do the same to him as she's done to her own h...oh boy oh boy...LL doesn't always keep her mouth shut..but the one thing I know is...sometimes ya just gotta let it out...now I know that I don't always let it out in a productive manner ie the little rant I just gave about waw's but when it's there it's there...it's raw...it's genuine...it's not methodically thought out and made all pretty nice nice for you to hear...that's just LL...if you don't want to hear the straight up truth...then don't talk to LL. she don't candy coat nothing but apples!!
phew!! now off to watch the news with h...were down at the bar tonight maybe we'll just get drunk and fall asleep on the couch.
phew!! now off to watch the news with h...were down at the bar tonight maybe we'll just get drunk and fall asleep on the couch.
Sounds like you already got started! LOL at least you've got some one to watch the news with! I would cut off my D*** if I could just be home holding my W!
LL, I know what you're saying. I couldn't imagine, even if I was ever going to be a WAW (I don't think I'd ever be one), throwing away my wedding vows, my family, etc. for my own selfish reasons. Marriage means you STICK. You stick around, work on the problems, DON'T have an affair, you don't run. You TALK, you WORK. Marriage takes work, if the WAS is too weak to do that, then that's a HUGE character flaw that they need to fix, and if they won't, then they don't deserve the LBS who sticks it out!
I haven't really read many thread from WAW/WAS. I think it would piss me off a bit. Most of the time their reasons for walking away are so trivial. Also, I think that if they took the time BEFORE walking away to talk to their spouses and try to work things out, maybe they wouldn't be so miserable and walk away.
I love my H so much. I love my family so much. Sure, I'd have been "justified" in most people's eyes having an A, or walking away, or just giving up. But I didn't, I won't. Luckily, my marriage was saved (thank God!), and my family is intact. My H tries so hard, and yeah, I have my momentary lapses in trust, insecurity, etc. But my H never left, he stayed, miserable as he was at the time, and worked on it with me. He stuck around and now we have a chance. Maybe all of the WAS should have done that instead of complaining of such trivial things. What about the spouse left behind? What about the kids? The WAS just left, how could those children feel?? If they tried everything, and I mean EVERYTHING to work on it, then they can leave if they want. Otherwise, in my opinion, they have no right to leave a marriage and family that they helped make just because they don't feel right about things at that moment.
Hope you are doing well. Just felt like adding to your thread.
Quoting lostlove: by all acounts in listening to what their gripes are all about I myself should have been the one to have an a..I am the one who should have left..so what is it then...these waw's are just little girls who don't know crap about real love and marriage...
Well, I am very proud of the fact that I would have stuck it out...I would NOT have settled with being unhappy but would have done, was doing, something about it! She lacked fortitude! I finally gave up later on! She is STILL confused/unhappy/lost, I am doing well for myself! Wil I rub it in? NO! But it not only gives me pride, but the knowledge that I can and will not only survive, but thrive!
ny
What gives. Anyways, I am not actually in the mood to post anything of importance, just wanted to say HI! since I haven't been around in months!! Things here are well. I am now pretty positive that things are over between my wife and I BUT, I am doing great...had a special friend for a while...didn't work out (I do after all have my daughter...and not everyone is ready and willing to accept the "insatnt family" that comes with that) no harm done, we were honest open and it was good while it lasted! I still see my wife (soon to be EX) quite often...with our daughter..and I have to credit Michele...we ARE actually VERy good friends now...and in the situation, it is was is best for our daughter!
and that is all due to Michele's books and this BB.