I am a 59 year old female married to a 64 year old male. At my husband's choice, we have had a sexless marriage for over 30 years (defined as 10X or less per year). The marriage has had no sex whatsoever for 5 1/2 years. I used to want to revive this, but I no longer do. I am growing to hate him and I am thinking of leaving. Yes, I read the Sex Starved Wife and tried some of the techniques. I am tired of this!