couples counselling for divorce?

[canadianMrs.]

First, sorry J3B's, I know I don't have 100 posts on my old thread. I just need an answer for this asap.

I talked to my IC today. She thinks H and I should go for counselling to get some closer for all the drama that has happened in the last 9 months (H's affair, the cover up/lies etc, me having him leave when I found out and othr MLC behavior)
I would like to be able to move on from these feelings, but I'm not sure if C will help. Has anyone else done this?
I'm 95% sure I want to end this marriage, I'm not sure where H is...although if I asked I'm sure I'd get a negative answer.

[canadianMrs.]

I should add that IC thinks we should do this because we have been together since we were 16. We share most of the same friends, our families are friends. It's not like we can just separate our lives.

[AntoniaB]

I could not get my XH to go to any form of counseling with me, but I went to counseling to deal with him divorcing me, and it has been a godsend. My doctor has been a counselor too and has helped me to come to terms with accepting the divorce as the best thing for me even though it happened against my wishes/will. I think any counseling is helpful, just my opinion. Good luck.

[MHL]

I'm 95% sure I want to end this marriage, I'm not sure where H is...although if I asked I'm sure I'd get a negative answer.

If your not 100% sure you're not done.....

That last 5% can be a real beotch too....

The last 1% is even worse......

However....

This does not mean you guys are ready for counseling.

I would want to know what the goal of counseling would be???

If it is anything but to save the marriage I would say that it is probably a waste of money.

It is too soon to talk about "co-parenting after divorce"....

you do not even know 100% that is what you want.

Is the OW still in the picture??

If so, no counseling, no contact, nodda.

Hope that helps.

Cheers