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Harrier #2141440 03/21/11 03:35 PM
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you weren't harsh at all. I'm really struggling right now with what to do. I'm beginning to think all of the physical touching I get from her is either because she's asleep and doesn't realize she's doing it or out of obligation. It only happens if I initiate it. If I don't, there is nothing.

That's making it pretty easy to not care because obviously she doesn't.


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Bolt #2141466 03/21/11 04:39 PM
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Originally Posted By: Bolt

That's making it pretty easy to not care because obviously she doesn't.

You're mindreading, Bolt. Careful about making these assumptions... you'll start looking for behavior that supports your fear that she doesn't care, and missing or ignoring the behaviors that shows she does.


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Bolt #2141477 03/21/11 05:28 PM
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Originally Posted By: Bolt


That's making it pretty easy to not care because obviously she doesn't.


Dude I know, it's tough, tough, tough. But like FMV said, you know this isn't the case. Spend some time on newcomers, if you want to see spouses that don't care.

Look you know your situation and W better than anyone else here. You interact with her daily. So I won't try say I know anything more than you.

But In my situation. I had those feelings too, the proved to be wrong in the long run. It seems if she is still with you that tells you something.


Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.
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FindingMyVoice #2141484 03/21/11 05:54 PM
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wow, just rereading my post just from a few minutes ago...I can see that first, I'm glad to have a place to vent and blow off steam and second, I'm glad there is support to set me straight.

You are right that I do see things. I really do. Sometimes it's that I'm not seeing the things I want. I have to not only stop the expectations but enjoy what I am getting.

thanks for clearing me out here smile


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Bolt #2142063 03/23/11 03:49 PM
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Hey Bolt, just checking in. How have things been going for you the last couple days?


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