I was wondering about you, I dont post much either but I was looking out for you...
I am sorry your R seems to be ending. I dont know why and I really think you shouldnt focus on whys.
The best thing that happened was that you now know what's out there and that, that cold R with your ex wasnt normal.
Hugs to you M
((((((Kalni)))))) I think you are right. The whys don't matter much. Maybe we went to fast, but on the other hand, we both knew what we were doing. I am not having any regrets.
And you are even more right, I know that the R had with my XW isn't the way it has to be. (I won't say "normal", because I guess it was "normal" for her.) I know that there is a lot more passion out there!
I keep an eye on you... It seems to be two steps forward and one back, but that is a lot better than one forward and two back!
Sorry as well that things fizzled out. But maybe it was for the best...
Eventually I will get to the point to "dive into the deep end" again. My IC and a couple of my close friends say that I am so ready to handle it but there's always that voice inside of you saying not to rush things. With two kids still in school and other activities going on, how am I going to budget the time?
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Hey J... sorry your relationship broke up, but you are being marvellously stoic and pragmatic about it. Hey, it was a great experience right. Hope you are ok, Al xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I picked her up from the airport last night, we talked a little. She still feels like she's lost herself. What I didn't hear her say was that she would like to try to make it work. I heard more past tense words, with a few "I don't know"s tossed in. How great it was. So, I guess that's really it. I do think it would be a mistake to mope about it (ok, I'm moping a little), and to imagine some kind of hope that isn't there.
Had some texting last night, put me into a bit of a funk. This morning I decided that it was a perfect opportunity for a "mental health day", and I went golfing. Clears my head, anyway. So, I shot the best round I can remember, probably my best ever. Had an 89, I don't remember being below 100. I couldn't miss a putt. Don't know when I will do that again, but it was great fun, and my mood has improved!
