Beginning of the End, or of the Beginning

[Mike.4545]

Okay, thanks MrBond.

I'll keep myself together and composed during the conversation and report back here after it's over.

[Mike.4545]

Yes, she's moving forward with the divorce
No, she will not stop seeing OM

Lot's of her crying in between.

Not much else to add.

[fisherman]

Time for this.....

I'm completely dark and off the map of her life...doing my own thing.

[fisherman]

Do this real. Do it for you.

Get out, enjoy life, find yourself again.

Just don't do this with a "eff you" attitude. That's not letting go.

[fisherman]

Sorry that should read, Do this for real.

[Mike.4545]

You're right trapt. That's where I'm taking myself.

I told her not to contact me, and that if she needed to get any communication to me, then she should go through her father.

Any suggestions on what to do if she does not honor that?


Here's to Day 1 of the next part of my life!

=O)

[fisherman]

I told her not to contact me, and that if she needed to get any communication to me, then she should go through her father.

When it comes to words, often less is more. There really isn't a need for telling her. Just be busy living your life,having fun, finding forgivness (for you), healing, figuring out which direction you want to head and so on. Your actions will speak so much louder than any words.

Any suggestions on what to do if she does not honor that?

So what if she tries to contact you. You can be unavailable if that is your choice. What are you going to do if she does? Tell her off?? Throw some more drama into the mix? Why give her that control over you?

Let's face it Mike, if you're not yet D'd, you will most likely still have to have a little contact with her until everything is said and done.

If you want to communicate with her through her father that is your choice. This is just my opinion and I'm not at all saying be her best buddy right now but treating her with respect and communicating with her about only the issues at hand when you absolutely have to would seem like a stronger way to go about it.

You get to decide who you want to be and how you want to handle yourself. Try your best not to let your emotions run the show.

And remember you're going NC for you right?

[MrBond]

Is the OM married?

[Mike.4545]

Thanks for your words trapt. I actually do agree with you regarding the contact. I absolutely wouldn't tell her off or anything like that. I've treated her with nothing but kindness and respect for the last 7-8 months and have no desire to do anything but that now.

I think what I'll do is communicate with her only in terms of things that REQUIRE my involvement. Any buddy buddy, hows your day? type chat will not be initiated or responded to by me though.

I wish it had never gotten to this point, but yeah, I'm moving on for me only. I know I've done the best I could do...and I'm just done. I've held her hand and stayed by her for as long as I could...but where she's taking herself, I cannot follow. I don't know what the future holds, but I'm ready and comfortable with looking ahead and living my life without her.

[Mike.4545]

Is the OM married?

No MrBond, he's 25, and single.